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Can our 1 year old stay with us at the hospital?

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November 4th, 2006, 11:20 AM
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Does anyone know if our 1 year old can stay with us at the hospital? When we had her, my hubby stayed the whole time with me in my room until I was released. He was there to help me take care of her and share the experience.

She will be a year old when her brother is born, and we want to have her there with us. We've never left her in anyone else's care, and I have personally never been away from her. I've been with her 24-7 since she was born.

I just don't know what to do. I think it would be traumatic on both her and ME to have to leave her with someone for a couple nights while I am in the hospital. Frankly, I don't even want to leave her alone with hubby because he sleeps like a dead man. If she were to wake during the night, he'd never hear her, leaving her to cry and panic, and feel alone. Also, we often let her in our bed when she wakes at night, and he has accidentally lay pillows on her or pulled the covers over her face, not realizing it. I'm always there awake to catch things like that. It scares me to think about not being there for her.
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November 4th, 2006, 12:49 PM
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I am not sure if a one year old can stay at a hospital with a mother that recently gave birth. I never liked to leave my children until they were older either. Even a couple hours with the in-laws was hard. I have not gone to the hospital that I will be delivering at yet, however I did see they just opened a new Birthing Center with rooms that are like "hotel stays"???? Has anyone else stayed in one of these rooms? Hopefully you can find a hospital that will welcome your husband and daughter. When are you due?? Take care,
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November 4th, 2006, 01:48 PM
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We're doing a planned c-section on Dec 9th. Unless I keep doing the chores and stressing out and he comes earlier! (evil smirk).

The "hotel - like" rooms are reserved for those giving natural birth. C-section patients are put in smaller, more "medical" rooms. They welcomed my hubby to be there 24 hours a day if he wanted to be. I was just hoping that he could take her through the day and they could both come stay at night with me at the very least. We have a small porta-pin for her to sleep in.

It might be selfish of me and over protective, but I just can't imagine being away from my baby girl. She only sees her daddy a few hours a day due to his work schedule, so she knows who he is, but she comes to me for comfort and all of her needs.

Here I go worrying about all this.. maybe I should just phone the hospital and ask (duh). If they say she can stay, I'll be worry free and dancing on a cloud.. if they tell me no, then I'll be stressing for the next month.. ugg.
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November 6th, 2006, 02:00 PM
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That's a good question. I understand your worry. I never like to leave my son with anyone. When we had our still birth 6 mos. ago, he stayed with my niece and I felt so bad, but he did just fine. So if you do have to leave her, she will be ok.

Now DS is over 2 and likes going to grandpas house and loves Sunday school. It took a while, but we are both used to it now.
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November 15th, 2006, 02:04 PM
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I highly doubt they will let her stay with you. You may need to get used to the idea of being away from her for a night and probably should find someone she can stay with unless your husband won't stay the entire time with you this time.

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November 16th, 2006, 09:39 AM
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You probably need to find her somewhere to stay, at least just in case. You never know what will happen and it is better to be prepared.
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