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December 28th, 2009, 09:19 AM
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Okay for me, I do not like to be touched a lot during labor nor do I want a lot of noise or music or anything. Although I may try real quiet music this time. We'll see. Generally speaking I like dh to hold my hand and that's about the only touch I am interested in and I don't want to be talked to or coached either. I don't like people telling me I can do it or anything. I just want quiet and to be left alone. So how about everyone else? And for those that haven't given birth how do you generally deal with pain (in a general sense)?

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December 28th, 2009, 10:31 AM
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you know, Every labor has been different, but in general I like to do my own thing and not have other people messing with me.

my first I didn't want any talking or noise or anything, but I had to have rhythmic like touching on my belly as a focal point. Other than that, no one was allowed to touch or talk to me.

my second I couldn't handle any touching at all. No talking, no touching, nada. Couldn't even have any jets/bubbles in the tub.

this last one I figured would be the same way, completely silent with little to no touching. I was completely wrong! I hummed during contractions, and though I didn't think I wanted touched, I found I really relished the moments when my midwife would come and help me through contractions, either putting counter pressure on my lower back or rubbing my forehead. It wasn't what I expected at all. I also MOVED constantly where with my first two I settled into one position and stayed there the whole labor.
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December 28th, 2009, 11:16 AM
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I just go into the zone... LOL! I also do not usually want to be touched or coddled or talked to, DH is the only one I can really tolerate while in labor. I try to train myself for the mind frame of embracing the pain, encouraging it to do its job. Here's a case where it is so spiritually helpful to be Catholic- we are all about offering up our suffering, so that's what I do.
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December 28th, 2009, 11:47 AM
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i'm the complete opposite. i like my back to be rubbed and sometimes(especially in the end) i need to be coached through the really crappy contractions! i had really bad back labor with my first 2, so lots of pressure was awesome!
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December 28th, 2009, 12:24 PM
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I've been different in each of my two natural births. In my first, I didn't mind music and bounced on the birthing ball with my ipod for a couple hours. I did not want to be touched at all though. I was loud during transition and rocked in the tub pretty much standing up until Julia was born.

With Kate, I needed silence in regards to music and tv, but didn't mind talking in between contractions. I didn't mind holding DH's hand or having my friend keep cool washclothes on me. I needed reassurance verbally from my midwives as well during transition. I stayed in between two positions during all of active labor, for contractions I had to be leaning over the sides of the tub, but in between I always turned over to sit on my bottom and have my belly under the water. Then when the next contraction hit I"d be back on the side of the tub.

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December 28th, 2009, 04:05 PM
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I love a room full of people talking. It helps me to deal with contractions if I can concentrate on a conversation going on around me. My DH jokes that my home births are really like a big party with lots of people and food around

I usually use a birth ball and I try to visualize the pain leaving my body when I exhale.
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December 28th, 2009, 05:13 PM
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With DS1's birth I really didn't have any support at all and labored completely on my own... (that was before DH!). With DS2 I was being hurried and pushed and DH didn't know what to do because he was so scared that I was in so much pain and we were constantly being threatened with a c/s, then I ended up with a c/s. DH never did touch me during labor with DS2.

With this one, I told DH I want him to be more hands on and touch me during labor. We'll see how I feel when the time comes.
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December 28th, 2009, 05:33 PM
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With Lily's birth I just wanted someone constantly massaging my back/shoulders/legs. I could care less if people were talking to me because I wasn't really paying attention. I do remember DH's hand cramping up from rubbing my back so he stopped for a second and I yelled at him to keep massaging me.

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December 28th, 2009, 08:48 PM
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With both of mine I needed music (A Perfect Circle) loud enough to focus on well. I spent a lot both labors rocking on hands and knees or on a birth ball. Sang badly for a while with my son, and that really helped. At some point I seem to resort to swearing. I don't really care for people touching me, unless it's with a cold washcloth, but I like having someone around to make eye contact with and staying anchored that way. I'm really picky about lights though. The darker the better...
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December 29th, 2009, 01:19 AM
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I didn't have a painful labor, it just felt like muscles working I did focus and concentrate on making them work effectively, I didn't want anyone touching me, talking to me, talking about me, or making any real noise. I didn't mind music and singing but I've heard from a few different sources that music shuts of the logic power center of the brain which hormones do in labor anyway so it makes sense to me.

To relax in between contractions I stayed in the bath and chilled. This time I'll probably stay in a pool and chill, just because I can lean forward and relax, rather than recline against the slope of the tub which is really counter productive for positioning.
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December 30th, 2009, 03:21 PM
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I pretty much wanted to be left alone during my first and only (home) birth. When my contractions were getting bad I was begging for counter pressure on my lower back which my husband and midwife took turns to give me.
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