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January 17th, 2008, 03:21 PM
Little Mrs Sunshine
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Anyone want to share the pro's and cons of both for me? In my mind, homebirth is "obviously" the better choice - but I feel Im making this decision ignorantly without any facts, and my husband wants to consider both.

the main points for me are this so far:

Homebirth - YOU DONT HAVE TO GO ANYWHERE lol. doesnt get more relaxing then that!
Cons- renting a birthing pool and making poor DH clean it up afterward when he didnt want a homebirth to begin with, and wants a water birth even less. also the noise factor considering I have neighbors. And if the house isnt spotless when I go into labor im gonna spend the beginning of my labor trying to make it spotless because I cant relax in a messy house.

Birth Center - I feel it defeats a huge part of the purpose and meaning for me og having a natural birth. natural birth and home birth are two different things. I was really looking forward to being home RIGHT after having the baby
but on the bright side - they have the birthing tubs there, the place will be spotless and very relaxing when I get there and dont have to worry about neighbors or anything. And I still get to leave whenever I want after having the baby.

are their other things I should consider? I want to make an educated choice. But I do know I DONT want another hospital birth. I am sic of IV's and nasty nurses and the stress and the uncomfortable hospital beds and a long list of other things. Along with having to worry the whole time you are there making sure they dont do anything with your baby you told them not to!
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January 17th, 2008, 04:11 PM
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My midwife cleans the birth pool afterwards.

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January 17th, 2008, 08:58 PM
shadowdweller's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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so does mine.
i only know of one friend whose midwife did not. interestingly, my friend hated her midwife. but she had a great student who was the primary, and when the senior midwife left, the student did at least help them clean up.
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January 17th, 2008, 10:41 PM
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The main reasons Im going with a birthing center is...
1. We live far away from any hospital
2. I dont want to clean up afterwards or before (dont really want people over if my house is a mess)
3. I can still labor how I want and leave whenever
4. I want to be able to use the birthing tub w/out having to worry about setting it up in my house ( I hear of a lot of women that dont get it set up in there house in time)

Thats pretty much it. If we lived closer to a hospital though I might have a different opinion but I really just like the convenience of the birthing center as compared to my own home. Plus my birthing center is next to a restaraunt and they serve you your next meal in bed. LOL. Im easily pleased.

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January 17th, 2008, 11:38 PM
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Well, I've only had a home birth, not one in a birthing center, so it's hard to compare the two fairly. For ME, I wouldn't trade the comfort of my own home for much of anything, having been there and done that once. I had the opportunity to tour a brand new birthing center just before Amelia arrived...and it was nice, but it just wasn't HOME. I loved laboring in the rocking chair in my bedroom, climbing into my own bed with my baby just after she was born, and (as someone mentioned in a different post) remembering the birth every time I'm in my living room, and realizing that she was born right here.

And if the house isnt spotless when I go into labor im gonna spend the beginning of my labor trying to make it spotless because I cant relax in a messy house.[/b]
I felt the exact same way. I very nearly drove myself crazy once I hit the 36 week mark, making sure that my house stayed as spotless as possible, because I also felt that I wouldn't be able to relax in a messy house...not knowing that the midwives were coming over. And I did pick up a few things VERY early on in my labor - nothing drastic. But you know what? Once things get going good, I PROMISE you, you'll stop caring!!

Unfortunately, my midwife didn't clean the pool either...and DH says it wasn't pleasant. But the midwives did clean up everything else, down to washing a couple of loads of blankets and towels.
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January 17th, 2008, 11:56 PM
Little Mrs Sunshine
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thanks everyone! it seems like there are a lot of aspects of a home birth that would be sooo meaningful to me - but at the same time after talking it over with DH and researching which Birth Center I would use, I think we've decided this is the better option for us.

My husband is 100% comfortable with this idea, which played a huge role in it all. He is happy they have the training and equipment to care for newborn until their prearranged ambulance arrives to take over and escort baby to a very nearby hospital in case of a very unlikely emergency.

I am also the kind of person who feels more "relaxed" in a nice hotel room then in my own home - I dont know why that is lol! but I think the birthing center would be like a vacation to me! plus my DH would hire someone to come clean while I was gone so I can come home to a clean house and no laundry!

also, they are closer to a hospital then my house is - though my house isnt far!

the whole having neighbors thing really played a part in this too. I dont want to spend my pregnancy working on not caring what they think about any noise coming from my house. I rather spend my pregnancy focusing on having a healthy mindset about the birth. I also like that if I get insurance it will be 100% covered and I can have a waterbirth without ordering a tub and setting it up.

I really find home births to be such a beautiful thing, but Ive found myself excited about the birth center! and relieved from the stress of arguing with DH!!

I want to say I really appreciate all the time and information this board has provided me. Thanks so much ladies! I may not have decided on a home birth but you ladies help me decide on a birth that is a perfect match for me and my husbands needs.
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January 18th, 2008, 07:02 AM
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I see you guys made your decision But I'll still put my .02 in!

We debated much the same, and the clean house was a big thing for me. I obsessed until about 39 weeks, when I said "Screw it". I made my DH stay on top of it, which he didnt lol. But then when I actually went INTO labor, he scrambled & cleaned up FINALLY lol. Not that i cared much at that point. After I had the baby (in my bedroom) and came out to the main part of the house, and voila! Theyd cleaned my house. There was no mess fromthe birth, when I finally looked up from staring at my baby for oh... an HOUR, lol - the whole room was clean, the towels were already in the wash, everything!

So it really ended up not being like I imagined it at all in that aspect.

That said - when we debated the birthing center, my DH was much like yours - he only got ont he home birth wagon once he realized that everything at the birthing center would also be at our house... so the transport wouldnt happen any differently.

So - if this is the option you feel most comfortable with - go with it. I think if Id been planning on another baby Id have done the BC thing first, THEN a homebirth. We really ended up siding with HB in the end b/c we were pretty insistent that this would be our last baby & I didnt want to not have a homebirth when it was all said & done. Looking back, I'm so glad I did it that way b/c you can never really *get* the pros of a homebirth until you do it. Hearing them just doesnt do it justice


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January 18th, 2008, 08:35 AM
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Yea Lala - that is the reason I am having the hardest time bing SURE this is what I want - because this is our last baby! so Im worried I may regret not having the homebirth. and there are some aspects of a home birth you just CANNOT compare.

My DH would probably hire someone to clean if we had a homebirth - he works 80+ hours a week ALL NIGHT TILL EARLY MORNING (like 6PM To 6AM and sometimes till 10AM!) so i know he wont clean - but i think the clean house is fixable!

this particular birthing center we are going to use is more "equipped" then the other birthing centers we looked at - so to DH, its very different then a home birth. I wish he was on board with the home birth thing, but at the same time - Id still have the factor of not wanting to disturb the neighbors. and then on the other hand - really shouldnt care what they think. so its tough. Im not ruling out a homebirth completely yet - but im pretty sure we will end up in the birthing center and feel that it will be something my husband and I can both agree on. in fact, it isnt even really a "compromise". to me its a little bit of a compromise - if we owned a house and didnt live in this stupid condo then it would be a bigger compromise for me. but for DH he is 100% happy with this birthing center - of course we still have to go there in person! so, nothing set in stone yet - but to me Im thinking havnig a waterbirth is the thing Im looking forward to most.

youve been really informative and supportive. thanks
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January 18th, 2008, 12:23 PM
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I just know for me in making my decisions.. there is NOTHING like your own home. just knowing that i'd be in a birth center that is homey is not as comforting and calming as my own house. Not to mention the germ aspect of your own home that baby will be immune to, as compared to a birth center. I love birth centers and they are a great alternative, but its not my haven, my own home, my sanctuary with the things and smells and places that I am used to
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January 19th, 2008, 12:47 PM
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It sounds like you made a good choice. I loved my homebirths, but if that weren't possible I'd definitely choose a freestanding birthing center over a hospital any day. I've never used one, but I'm sure many happy births happen there. The one Anita checked may not do waterbirths, but I think many of them do.
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January 19th, 2008, 08:24 PM
Little Mrs Sunshine
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thanks. our birthing center offers "waterbirths" so I would think that includes birthing in the water -but now I know to ask and make sure!

they wont deliver past 42 weeks or before 37 weeks without backup OB giving it the OK- but I dont think this will be a problem Ill encounter going late.

im not sure about the water breaking thing - Im sure they have some guidelines on this
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