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August 29th, 2007, 02:45 PM
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Location: Fort Hood, TX
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am i wrong for feeling bad for not being a part of my babies baby shower?

my mother-in-laws friends are throwing HER a baby shower. they live three hours away from us, but there is something about it that makes me sad. i dont know if i should make a registry for it or not. her friends are all going to be buying gifts for the baby. i would at least like to be invited.

hopefully they all include gift receipts because my mother has bought me a lot already.

(this might now belong in here, sorry)
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August 29th, 2007, 02:57 PM
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Sounds kinda neat to me but only if you are invited!
If it's gonna happen then I would absoutely make a registry! I'm guess that very few of your mother in laws friends know you so they aren't going to know your taste in baby stuff if you don't make a registry. For example, I personally don't like baby baby kinda stuff I prefer more modern baby stuff. I know my mother in laws friends wouldn't know that about me.
You can't complain to much if you get stuff that you don't want. You have to remember that people don't have to buy your baby stuff. It would be nice if people would only buy stuff that is on your registry but it seems like there are always a few people that buy random things.

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August 29th, 2007, 02:59 PM
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I think it's nice of them to wanna have a shower but I do think that you should be included. I mean afterall you are the one having the baby not your mil. Are you going to be having another shower? I can see why you are a lil upset.
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August 29th, 2007, 03:13 PM
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I think it's nice of them to wanna have a shower but I do think that you should be included. I mean afterall you are the one having the baby not your mil. Are you going to be having another shower? I can see why you are a lil upset.[/b]
no, i am not going to be having another shower because i dont know anyone (army wife) where i live.
i feel a bit whiny for posting, but i wanted to know what other people thought, obviously.
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August 30th, 2007, 06:59 AM
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It sounds like maybe those friends of your MIL are trying to do something nice for her and because you are so far away they probably assume you wouldn't be able to come. I would mention to your MIL (or your DH who can tell her) that you would love to be a part of it and hopefully they will then invite you and you can make your registry and all that.

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September 28th, 2007, 05:33 PM
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My sister in law had 1 baby shower where we are and she invited her friends and family that is here... but her out of state family also held her a shower in her honor that she didn't get to attend since they live in Michigan/Indiana and we're in Tennessee...

I'm sorry that you don't have anyone close to you where you live to throw a shower for you Maybe some of your friends from your hometown wouldn't mind coming out to see you for one?

But I think with out of state family and such, they seem to enjoy throwing 'honorific' baby showers.

And I would DEFINITELY still make a registry!
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January 11th, 2008, 04:02 PM
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That's horrible! I would be so upset too. MIL should have had her friends throw you a baby shower. Or at LEAST both of you! I have heard of this new craze of grandma showers where all the gifts are things for grandmas to use when she keeps the baby. So are you going to get to keep the gifts or are they for your MIL's house?

36 weeker take home babies!!!
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January 17th, 2008, 01:22 AM
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I would be upset too!

When I was preggo with dd my MIL told me she wanted to throw me a baby shower. I thought that was great so when my friends asked if I was having a shower I would tell them my MIL was going to throw it. Come to find out she only invited HER friends to the shower. None of mine were invited. I was soooo mad! Finally she let me invite four of my friends. THANKS A LOT! My friends felt bad for me though and threw me a shower a month later. That one was much more fun since I actually knew the guests!

Sherilyn ~ Mama to Jade & Colt
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