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September 19th, 2012, 01:48 PM
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I want to know your stories - why didn't you marry one of your exes??? What was he like that caused you to get up and say, "HOLY CRAP *** AM I DOING, I NEED OUT!" (or if he broke up with you, realizing that it was for the best).

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September 19th, 2012, 02:03 PM
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How much time do you have? There were a lot of problems. We hurt each other a lot and didn't have the skills and/or the energy to repair the damage. He was still in "high school mode" and I was ready to move forward. That's scratching the surface but I really don't feel like delving into that mess.
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September 19th, 2012, 04:16 PM
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The only other guy I was ever truly serious about, I would have married in a heartbeat. He had this idea that I'd always be there and that he could play the field as long as he wanted and then marry me when he was ready to settle down. (Even his best friend has told me that's what he was saying/doing.) Eventually, I got sick of trying/waiting and started dating other guys and met DH.
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September 19th, 2012, 04:51 PM
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I had a serious boyfriend in high school. We got engaged and were together 3 years. He ended up dumping me the week before my Senior Prom because I wouldn't do the deed with him. I wasn't ready and I am SO glad he dumped me. It would have been nice to have a date to the prom especially since I went to his the year before but oh well, lol.
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September 19th, 2012, 07:48 PM
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I had one other semi-serious boyfriend...he cheated on me.
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September 19th, 2012, 11:11 PM
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honestly, neither of them turned out wanting to marry an independent woman with a career, and they both married what they wanted, one is happy and one is divorced and miserable. Oh well
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September 20th, 2012, 12:44 AM
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only was in one other serious relationship, we were engaged and had a child. but he was abuzive and i left with the help of the state when i was finally able to get someone to believe me about what he was doing. I thank God every day we never married. I am now married to my DH, the man of my dreams.
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September 20th, 2012, 02:04 AM
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All of them? Haha.

I only had two 'serious' relationships before meeting my husband. The first was a teenage sweethearts deal and we eventually grew apart from each other, we wanted different things after high school and it just wasn't going to work, that and, even if it did work out, we wouldn't be able to get married because we were both female and gay marriage isn't legal here.

Second one was an abusive relationship, he wanted to get married, but I was fortunate enough to have wonderful friends who helped me get out of that relationship and away from him.
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September 20th, 2012, 02:04 AM
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September 20th, 2012, 07:00 AM
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The first one, we were just too young. We broke up over something stupid and months later when he called he wasn't forthright enough about wanting to go out on a date, and I blew him off. Chalk it up to me being young, stupid and impetuous, with his not being strong enough and mature enough to take control of his destiny.

Second one that I would have married in a heart beat if he asked me was just a bad decision from start to finish...he was married, and told me he was leaving his wife - which of course never happened.

Very glad all that lead me to DH though!
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September 20th, 2012, 11:33 AM
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The only other guy I would have married turned out to be cheating on me -- with his WIFE, from whom he happened to be separated. It took me 4 months to find out, but as soon as I did, I called her up and told her. It turned out that they were separated but she was trying to get pregnant with him. It was a whole lot of crazy in that relationship, and I'm sooooo glad I got away from that! My DH would never think of cheating on me, and I feel so lucky to have met such a good, honest, trustworthy man.
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September 20th, 2012, 11:55 AM
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One of my exes cheated on me. I was so mortified and actually didn't see it coming. We weren't engaged and we were in high school. The realtionship was a long one, but we were very young. I am glad to not have stayed and dealt with it. He wanted me to stay and basically have his cake and eat it too...

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September 20th, 2012, 12:22 PM
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Only had one serious relationship before my DH. I was 17 and he was 18 and we were engaged, planning the wedding for one month after my graduation. He basically got scared off by my mom who threatened him with jail if he even thought about touching me.

I'm glad, though, because he went on to marry someone else and I truly believe who he is with now is more suited to him and exactly what he needed. Same with my DH, he is suited to me and exactly who I am supposed to be with.

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September 20th, 2012, 01:35 PM
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There wasnt an EX. LOL

Dan is the most serious and the longest relationship Ive ever had, only man to ever say they loved or even cared about me or me tell them the same.

The men I dated before him lasted like one date and they never called back and the couple that did...lasted about 2 mths at the most before I realized we just didnt have anything in common and it wasnt worth dragging either of us along a go nowhere path.

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September 20th, 2012, 03:48 PM
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I had a serious relationship on and off through high school but we were young and stupid. We both tried to control eachother because there was no trust and just..well stupid..My parents hated him and eventually my parents transfered out of state and moved me my senior year of high school..THANK GOD! Because I think I would have kept going back to him everytime he called and wouldn't have been able to break away.
..I met my DH my senior year of highschool and 5 years later we were married and having our first child. I was so mad at my parents at the time and now I couldn't thank them enough for what they did for me!
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September 20th, 2012, 05:36 PM
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Because he was a complete and utter pig? Yup, that about sums it up.

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