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February 9th, 2013, 07:33 PM
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Does dh help with the house cleaning? Do you have certain tasks that each peron is assigned? Does dh complain about helping out?

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February 9th, 2013, 09:18 PM
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We used to split it pretty evenly. Since I've been on mat leave, its all fallen to me. I'm home the most, but Cameron is a bit of a handful, and DH seems to think he doesn't need to do anything to assist me at all ever. Its a bit trying at times and we had a bit of a blow up about it earlier today. Hopefully going forward, things will be better.
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February 10th, 2013, 08:42 AM
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No he doesnt help.
He doesnt even take a moment to toss his stuff in the trash or the hamper.

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February 10th, 2013, 03:03 PM
Blue-Jay's Avatar Jenny
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Mine either, Hillarie. In the beginning, I didn't ask for help because though we were both working full-time and I was tutoring, DH was also doing a sort of second job and going to school, so I had more free time and didn't mind doing it on the weekends while he was away. Now that we have a baby and my out-of-home work load is still the same, I would appreciate some help, but he doesn't see the need for a redistribution of chores, so I'm stuck with it. When he does help (like if I tell him his friends can come over IF he helps clean), he thinks that cleaning means tidying, and I think cleaning means using products to remove actual grime, so we're not really on the same page about it. :-/

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February 10th, 2013, 04:03 PM
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Location: North Carolina
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I do all of the housework.....dh doesn't help. But, I'm a SAHM so, I would feel guilty even asking for help (especially since that's seen more as the woman's responsibility anyway). I've learned to enjoy it. To be honest, at times, I become ridiculously overwhelmed with taking care of the kids, the home and catering to him...but, I just take a moment (usually in the bathroom) to breathe and remind myself that they will all be asleep soon and I will have some non-catering quiet time to myself! Lol. It keeps me going.
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February 11th, 2013, 07:29 PM
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the short answer is no, he doesn't do any of it, but it's okay it works for me. He will tidy up a bit if I have to leave right after supper, just to clear the table etc and I do appreciate that, then I don't have to come home to a messy house. We used to have battles about it but they're long done, we've figured it out.
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February 13th, 2013, 08:59 PM
Just_Marie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Location: Canada
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he was a better cleaner than I was, now the housecleaner comes in weekly

Lucky mother to five!

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April 16th, 2013, 10:34 AM
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He helps me with the cleaning especially with the cleaning of windows because I can't tolerate the dusts in it.
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April 16th, 2013, 12:13 PM
butterfly721's Avatar Mommy-to-be to a baby boy
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DH doesn't help me with house cleaning, but I don't work anymore, so I don't really mind. When I worked full time, it drove me nuts that he didn't help. Especially since he's a teacher and he was off in the summer, and I was working full time plus doing everything around the house.
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