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October 30th, 2017, 07:57 PM
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Im 19, my husband is 22. Our daughter will be 3 months on October 11th. I am currently not working and don't plan to for a while. Mine and husbands choice we made. He on the other hand works over 45 hours a week and he pays all the bills and does manual labor all day everyday. He works for a moving company. He is always stressing about everything that needs to get done around the house before the snow comes. But. Ever since our daughter was born.. He has maybe changed 6 diapers... Total. I stay up with her all night every night. I feed her. I soothe her. I rock her. I do everything. He holds her when he comes home from work and he absolutely LOVES her. But he just doesn't help me. We have two huskies. And I stay home all day everyday taking care of the two dogs. The baby. Myself. And the house. I'm constantly cleaning, vacuuming dog fur. Doing dishes, doing laundry, trying everything I can to make my husband happy. I love him more than anything but he just doesn't get it. I don't know if anyone elses husband doesn't help like this? Because I feel guilty if he was to stay up all night with her when he's the one working and bringing in all the money for bills. I just am so stressed out and overwhelmed and he doesn't understand why and I'm starting to let myself get depressed. I haven't showered in 8 days because he won't even watch her when he comes home from work because he's so tired. Someone please tell me what to do or say.
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October 31st, 2017, 01:27 AM
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Is there someone who can help you. Can you leave your daughter with a friend or family so you can catch up on things and get some time for yourself?
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November 8th, 2017, 06:17 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. Majority of men DO NOT HELP OUT with the taking care of the kids. My husband stopped at helping me with child number 2 and we have 5 children. Believe me, i know exactly how you feel.

Maybe, for your own sake, you can start by changing your perception. You just have to accept the fact that you are 19, married and have a little one. This is your responsibility and you have to deal with it every day. I promise, it will make you happier person.


You can't shower because there is no one else helping you with the baby? What I did with that before is bring the carrier or the crib with me to the bath and then, I can take a shower.
Some things can be "fixed". Just find a way to overcome your feelings, if you can. I really wish you well and more blessings to you and your family.
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