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October 30th, 2012, 07:04 AM
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Halloween is tomorrow and I made little goodie bags for Jay's class. I had expected to see something from his teacher about a harvest celebration or something but we've got nothing. Then yesterday Jay told me that his teacher doesn't believe in celebrating Halloween so they're not having a party. So now I'm wondering if I should send in these bags tomorrow? It's just a little bag with a pencil, 2 little toys and a few pieces of candy in each. I probably should have just asked in our communication folder this morning but I forgot (because I was cleaning the carpet after my cat dumped all our plants out last night, I still want to kill her).

WWYD? Send them in or no? I figure worst case she'll send them back home with him, right?

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October 30th, 2012, 10:02 AM
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I wouldn't send them unless you get a chance to ask the teacher if it is ok, and she approves. Otherwise, keep them home.

I expected to see something in Brinlee's newsletter about a fall party, but didn't. So I asked her teacher, and she said no, there would be no class party. They're only allowed to have two class parties per year, and they do winter & Valentine's Day. She said I could send something small, if I wanted, but they couldn't make it a party.

If the teacher says no party, I'm sure she has a good reason for it. I don't always believe everything that comes out of my child's mouth... children sometimes get things turned around because they forget exactly what the teacher said or they're confused. Safest bet is to just ask her if it is ok to send them in. I know class parties take up a good chunk of instructional time (especially when every minute of the day is planned), so I completely understand when they don't take place.
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October 30th, 2012, 12:59 PM
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I would send them in. Sending in a goodie bag isn't making it a party. No different than sending in cupcakes/goodies for a child's birthday IMO. The kids will enjoy it, it doesn't turn anything into a party, and it shows you care. I would send them in and personally don't see the harm.

And kudos, sounds like a really cute idea!
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October 31st, 2012, 07:14 AM
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Yes, this was most certainly not me trying to create a party, just sending in a little goodie bag, something he could give to his friends at the end of the day. He didn't want to take them though, he was too afraid he'd get in trouble. When he tells me she doesn't celebrate halloween I believe it because it's pretty common in this area. There were other kids at the bus stop - in his grade - with stuff today and talks of parties so I'm thinking it might just have been his class missing out. Kind of a bummer, but oh well we still celebrate at home. Kids just like to share these things with their friends, especially at this age, it's fun. I told him he can still hand out his goodie bags tonight to his friends when they hit our house for candy.

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October 31st, 2012, 09:15 AM
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My district doesn't do holidays period. Not something I approve of but rules I must follow. I'd prefer if the parent asked. But goodie bags are something I could pass out at the end of the day and they can take home. No real harm there. But when you have 2-3 parents just sending in things it becomes a problem. I had to turn away parents because one parent is fine, multiple is not because we can't have "parties".

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November 1st, 2012, 07:27 AM
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We ran into something like this yesterday. I come from another end of the spectrum. My daughter walked in with a baggie of halloween goodies - no candy, just pencils and erasers. She walked in, threw it in the trash, and said, "The bus driver was trying to be nice and gave us all goodie bags but it's all halloween stuff that I don't want to keep so I put it in the trash." Then she told me what was in the baggie. We are not the only ones that don't celebrate halloween in her class - there's always a handful that don't in each of my children's classes. So for us, we don't want to accept anything halloween but don't want to be rude to someone who is offering it as well - yet it is something we do not wish to be in our home, therefore whether it is candy or other goodies, it will simply wind up in the trash and I know the people giving it don't want that happening to something they give either.
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November 1st, 2012, 07:37 AM
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He came home let down that he didn't take it in because other kids had brought stuff in too, he said they just passed everything out while they were loading up to go home. Oh well, next year.

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