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December 4th, 2012, 07:43 AM
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This is the second time this has happened. Joe's English class will read a story then have a class discussion as their "test". They are given a paper with a focus question, then they MUST talk two times during the discussion and they have to be specific about the way they respond. Then there is a focus question after the discussion and they have to write a little thing about what they learned.

Joe will not participate, he says it's embarrassing and he's worried he won't say something good and everyone will make fun of him so he'd rather just not talk. Then when his teacher did ask for his input he just says he has nothing else because everyone else already said what he was thinking. So what happens is he fails the test and if you get a D or F you are given another sheet of paper and you have to write an essay based on one of two questions she gives him and he has to answer that question TWO different ways. This is to make up the grade. It sounds easy but it's really very difficult to give her what she wants based on these tiny little stories and then the amount of detail, ugh it's just sucky. It would be SO much easier just to participate in class but I just don't know how to get him to do it!

I don't remember having to do this stuff in class, at least not graded discussions in class. Not in 6th grade! But we're only half way through the year and I'm sure there will be more of these and other things where he has to speak up and I just don't know how to get him past his shyness.

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December 4th, 2012, 08:52 AM
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No advice as we struggle with getting my son to shut up in class, not to talk in class LoL. I did have discussion groups in elementary school all the way through college that we were graded on, but I also have no problem with public speaking so it was never an issue for me.

Could you, your son, and the teacher sit down and talk and see if you could come up with an alternative? I do think it's important though that he learn to speak in groups as it will be beneficial in college, as well as in the work place, but maybe she could start by putting him in a group with only 2 other kids so that he feels a little more comfortable if there's only 3 including him?

Good luck! It's never fun or easy when the kiddos are struggling. Totally been there done that and it downright stinks!
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December 4th, 2012, 03:26 PM
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I'm glad we don't grade kids in school here! 3 out of 4 of my kids would be exactly like Joe, even now at 17 my eldest hates class/group discussions.
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December 4th, 2012, 05:51 PM
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I agree it's a valuable skill. But if he's having an issue, I would speak to the teacher she should be able to do it in small groups or something. He can't be the only child struggling.

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December 5th, 2012, 06:23 AM
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I'm sure he's not the only child with this problem which is why there is the alternative of writing the essay, it just doesn't seem fair or equal. You either step up and talk or spend a week writing. Blah! I just wish I could be there ya know, so I could push him to speak up. He needs that encouragement.

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