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March 16th, 2017, 07:22 AM
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I am from Bulgaria, so excuse my English.
I think my daughter is wise beyond her years. She is turning 14 this month. I think she's wiser than other teenagers because she has concepts about life too mature, sometimes when I talk to her, her vocabulary and wisdom make me feel like I'm talking with an old philosopher, sometimes I learn from her words. She knows and understands very well the human nature. She keeps her calm better than me. Last summer we went to vacation in Greece and we almost missed our flight. The city was crowded and we called a taxi to lead us at the airport, but the taxi has greatly delayed and we were thinking that it will never come. It was very hot and I was desperate. She came to me and said very calm "keep your calm, mama, we'll not lose our flight, I promise. Just calm down, sit on a bench and try to relax." . One week later, we've lost and no one knew English to help us. It was very hot. We couldn't find a taxi, the suitcase was broken, my husband had injured hand and we didn't know where is our hotel. Our daughter just came very calm and bandaged his hand, then said everything will be fine, we will overcome this situation. In that situations she seemed like she was meditating while speaking with us. Very calm, relaxed. Everything she said has came true. She's an introverted girl. I'm afraid that she becomes more introverted every single day. She has come to no longer wants to get out with her friends. She says she wants peace and wants to live her whole life alone in a japanese garden or near a forest with a lake, somewhere in Asia. Don't take me wrong, she doesn't hate people, because she says hate does not affect the hated one, but the person who hates. The only thing she hates is the hate itself. I'm afraid she'll become a loner, I don't think this is the best way of living a life. I don't know what's the problem with her but she thinks like an old man in a teenager body and this is very strange to me and to other people. She is very intelligent, she seems gifted even if she didn't ever take an IQ test because she says someone's intelligence is not defined by an iq test.
I just wanna help her to be more sociable. Most teenager girls at her age are thinking about boys and their friends and don't understand her.
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March 20th, 2017, 04:06 AM
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Your daughter does sound mature for her age; yet, she has wisdom that most youth in our culture lack. Most would benefit learning from her! All the best 2u

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July 28th, 2017, 05:26 AM
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My niece did not have many friends. She is a very shy and withdrawn child. My brother sent her to extra classes on rhetoric. She likes it very much. My niece made a lot of new friends there. It became easier for her to communicate with classmates. Maybe you should also find some courses for your child where he will lead like-minded people.
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October 9th, 2017, 05:55 PM
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I wouldn't worry that much if that's the case. At least compared to having a stubborn, disrespectful and hard headed teens today. But I also agree that she needs to learn social skills. I got my ideas about social skills and other life skills for teens at https://preparemykid.com
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November 4th, 2017, 05:40 PM
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Hi there! I agree with @Arinaroe. You are very fortunate so have so wise girl! So you can search (together with her) some interesting clubs and activities. Debate clubs, voluntary groups, school parliament, sience clubs, etc... There are also may great youth exchanges with Erasmus+. So if she is more mature than her peers, she might be more interested with communicating with older bright kids.
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