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August 26th, 2005, 10:42 AM
Blueberry's Avatar Regular
Join Date: Jul 2005
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Wheh! Where do I start. I need some advice...

DD is 12 and in Middle school. I get a call yesterday afternoon from the resource officer at her school (police Officer) She has been involved in a fight in PE with a boy. The Coach had to break it up and hurt his knee. Long story short DD is placed in cuffs and put in the back of the police car. She is being charged with assult and disorderly conduct. Suspended for 10 days and off the cheerleading team. I have to go to JV court and before the disaplinary board in her school district. They released her to DBF. DD has anger issues and is just not doing well. I have not been very hard on her since her father and I divorced 3 yrs ago. I have been in a relationship with DBF for over a year. We live together and DD is just going thru alot. What would you all do? Any advice would be great.
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August 26th, 2005, 11:37 AM
darlajortega's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: san bernardino, california
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was she defending herself or did she start the fight?
i tell my ds that he should NEVER EVER start a fight but if someone puts their hands on him then he better defend himself. we went through something about 4 months ago like that, he got in trouble for defending himself at school and we had to go to court, a fine ,community service and anger management, but he was defending himself so we did not punish him.
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August 26th, 2005, 01:16 PM
tamw402004's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Divorce is a hard thing for kids to go through. Has she ever went to counseling?
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October 7th, 2005, 08:19 AM
Join Date: Oct 2005
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This may sound crazy but I would investigate to see if there is an Aikido school in your area. Unlike most forms of martial arts, aikido teaches people how to stop an attacker without injuring them. Besides, most responsible instructors go the extra mile to teach students restraint and self control as part of their curriculum.

It might be a nice outlet for her anger, a place to improve self confidence and control and ultimately improve her safety.

Best wishes!
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