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July 31st, 2011, 09:11 AM
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Do you have a lot of friends who are moms? If so, do you find that being being a preemie mom impacts your relationships with them (for good or bad)?
~Beth in Seattle

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August 2nd, 2011, 07:50 PM
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I do have a lot of friends who are moms. I think in some ways they get annoyed with me because I'm a preemie mom. I am a lot more pro-stay-in-the-house-for-two-months than they are. I wouldn't take Daniel out at all for the first two months of his life and they all were just wowed by that. They didn't understand at all. I tried to explain I wasn't doing ANYTHING that would make him have to stay in the hospital.

Also, I tend to be angry at them when they talk about being uncomfortable and "wanting this baby out already" by like week 30. I am not at all patient or nice about it.

But otherwise, we relate well.

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August 2nd, 2011, 10:43 PM
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I don't have a ton of mom friends but one that I did have, I really offended. She had a week old baby that she took to an indoor playground in the middle of winter. She started complaining when her baby got sick, because there was a kid with a runny nose that had been at the playground. She posted on Facebook that people should keep their sick kids home. So I posted that she should keep her healthy kids home. Woops! I guess it's not normal to keep your newborn home for months.

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August 3rd, 2011, 09:03 AM
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I have a ton of friends and most are all moms. I guess partly because I am 35. I am the overprotective mom. I make some of them uncomfortable at times, but think that is more about talking about Madison. People do not want to think about that.
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August 3rd, 2011, 10:25 AM
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I find that as I get farther away from the NICU experience, I have more in common with non-preemie moms. The first year I felt like I was constantly having to explain why my kid wasn't like their kid. Now I don't have to do that anymore. I also find that some mom acquaintances who have kids with special needs or who had traumatic birth experiences have become mom friends, because we get each other in ways that other moms don't.
~Beth in Seattle

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August 3rd, 2011, 06:29 PM
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I have lots of mom friends but I am new to the preemie mommy thing, so I'm not sure yet how it will impact my friendships with them. I have had multiple losses, though, and I sometimes have trouble with people that take their pregnancies/children for granted.

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