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May 20th, 2009, 09:03 AM
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I understand the need to feel wanted and to be close to our dh/so but what about being intimate( in other words DTD).

Have you found it difficult? Have you been nervous and scared?
What have your feelings been?
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May 20th, 2009, 11:02 AM
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At first, he couldn't even TOUCH me. I'd start balling every single time. Now, I am much better, though I hardly ever want it.

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May 20th, 2009, 11:41 AM
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i thought i was alone on this one. I am so scared to dtd for me its the fear of getting pregnant again and lossing anougher baby i don't think i could deal with something like that again. We tryed once, but i couldnt feel anything, and it hurt. not sure why it would hurt.

Brandon-edd Jan,1,2010. Grew his wings on May 5.2009
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May 20th, 2009, 12:23 PM
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I thought that I wouldn't be able to handle it. I was totally wrong. Intimacy with DH has been surprisingly healing.

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May 21st, 2009, 06:56 PM
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We started again right away and it was very healing for me. I have felt closer to him not just because of DTD but because he has been so supportive in such positive ways. We have been away from each other for 3 weeks as he is out of town working and I really miss it!

Pregnancy Loss April 2009, September 2010
CP 10/2008, 1/3/11 {missing my babies every single day}Mommy to 4 Children - 3 boys ages 22, 21 and 18 & baby Scarlett
After 2.5 years TTC with 4 losses our Family was given the gift of Miss Scarlett
Do not ever give up hope...

Miss Scarlett... Our miracle girl still brings happy tears to my eyes.

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May 21st, 2009, 08:10 PM
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Right now I want nothing more than to for us to be able to hold each other in an intimate embrace, but we can't have sex for at least another week. I'm counting the days. I hope I can handle it when we finally can.
Ashley & Mark - parents to Jojo & Livy

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May 21st, 2009, 09:18 PM
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Right after the loss, I needed to be intimate more than anything. I needed to feel validated as a woman. That I could do something right, KWIM? After my first AF, the urge left and these days, Im just "horny" as usual I love being intimate with my DH, but for only personal physical gratification. Im slowly loosing the urge to become pregnant again, and have just focused on having a great summer. We are NTNP currently, and to be honest with you, Im looking forward to my AF next week. I guess its my hearts way of saying that I will need more time to TTC again. Does any one else feel like this?
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