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May 30th, 2009, 08:48 AM
brandimomof2's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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We found out on Thurs that our baby does not have a heartbeat. I was 11wks 6days. I keep thinking maybe they were wrong and everything is ok. I refuse to have a d&c until I know for sure. I am just so devasted. I have 2 girls and have never had trouble with losses or anything. I just dont understand. The only thing I can think of is that my Dr lowered my thyroid meds a week ago. My OB dr said that didnt have anything to do with it but I wonder.

I still have this sense that everything may be ok. I am just waiting to see if anything happens. Does anyone know how long that takes?

I go back to see my Dr on Monday to tell him what I want to do. I am going to ask for hcg level testing done a few time so we can see if the levels are going down. I also want another u/s just to be sure but I am not sure he will let me have one as he is 100% sure the baby isnt alive from the first u/s.

I have cried so much and just dont know what to do.I was so so sick the first 6wks. Just yesterday I started to feel better which is when I normally start to feel better. I get very sick and nothing was different this time. It was horrible sickness that I had to stay in bed for.

The only good thing about a d&c is that they may do testing on the tissue. Could they tell the sex by this too?

I was 12 wks yesterday so I know if this happens we will see the baby when it comes out. I dont know how much blood to expect either and I dont know what is normal so I am scared.

I just hope they were wrong and everything is ok.

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May 30th, 2009, 08:53 AM
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HUGS sweetie, this has to be so hard for you. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know I'd be feeling the same way, demanding tests and proof before I made any decisions for surgery.

Unless your doctor lowered your thyroid meds significantly (going from 200mcg to 50mcg for example) I wouldn't be concerned. I was taken off my completely during my 9 week pregnancy because I went from Hypo to Hyper in 6 days. Pregnancy does weird things to our bodies.
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May 30th, 2009, 09:02 AM
missy123's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I am so sorry you are going through this. It is the worst kind of pain that no one can really understand unless they go through it. When the U/S tech told me that my babys heartbeat was at 66 (going down each day) I made this horrible low moaning noise that I didn't even know I could produce. It must have been bad, because my oldest son was with me and he had this look on his face and he just hugged me so hard. I thought the machine was wrong, they were all wrong, this could not be happening to me... my baby was ok just a few weeks before. What were they telling me? Could this be real... When would I wake up from this horrible nightmare I was having?

I hope they are wrong with you and on Monday you get better news. We are here for you no matter what. Huge Hugs to you, I am so sorry.

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May 30th, 2009, 09:27 AM
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Im so sorry that you are going through this. At almost 12 wks, they will probably not do any HCG tests, as these are so unreliable at this point. They are supposed to go down. I would however ask for another u/s just to put your heart at rest. When I had my u/s done and the heart had stopped beating at 8wks, I asked for another one and the dr told me that the radioligist machine was 100% accurate and that no further testing would be required. He said that if I had a u/s on his machine that he would order one with them for confirmation. So I had no doubts when it was over.

I wish I had more answers for you, and I hope that you find some soon over the next few weeks. I had to wait 8wks for the chromosone tests that ended up producing a perfect baby girl. So Im still in limbo as to why this happened.
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