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June 18th, 2009, 10:13 AM
ldovey83's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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It seems like everytime I try to heal it is next to impossible.. I take comfort in knowing God is in control of all things, but it still dosent make the pain of loosing my child any easier.. Both of my best friends are pregnant, and so are alot of people I know, and I will be ok and then other days it is like I am going through loosing my child all over again.. Does it ever get any easier?
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June 18th, 2009, 11:25 AM
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Bless your heart....

Yes, I can assure it that it does gett easier.
It's only been three short weeks for you...the loss it so terribly new!!!!

Take some time to grieve. It's part of the healing process.
You don't have to be "over" this today. Shoot, you don't have to be "over" it ever!
You lost a child and all the hopes and dreams that go with it.

Just know that in a while you will realize that it's been a while.
It just isn't today.

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June 18th, 2009, 12:56 PM
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Oh honey. Dawna is so right. I also want to say, that's it's not an even progression. It's not linear. Each new day doesn't mean that you will be that much "better" than the last. You have good days mixed in with the bad. And bad days mixed in with the good. Just because yesterday was "good" and today is not, that doesn't mean that you are going backward. It's normal for it to happen like that. Slowly, gradually, the bad days become less frequent...the good days closer together. That doesn't mean that you ever "get over it" like Dawna said.

I'm going to share a quote we love on the stillbirth board. It's from the TV show Castle. "No, it never goes away. But one day you wake up, and you realize you don't mind carrying it around with you."
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June 19th, 2009, 09:28 PM
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Im so sorry for your bad days, but like Brittanie and Dawna said, the days of happiness and going forward will come closer together as time go's by. M/C is one of the most hardest things to go through in life, but one day you will hold your beautiful baby and know that all this pain was worth it......
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June 20th, 2009, 02:28 PM
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I am so sorry that things are so difficult for you right now. I agree with most of the previous posters. It seems to be my experience that the bad days get fewer. I still can't go an entire day without thinking about my losses, and I don't know if I ever want to. It's always in the back of my mind, but there are more and more "good" days.
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June 20th, 2009, 05:16 PM
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It does get easier. After some time as gone by you suddenly realize that you don't feel as bad as you once did. You still feel it, absolutely. It's still a weight on your shoulders. But it doesn't always feel as bad as it does now.

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June 20th, 2009, 05:39 PM
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i'll just echo all the great advice from the PPs...it does get better...i remember the first month after my loss of just being a huge black hole of grief, sadness and despair...but you do climb out and after a while the good days start to outnumber the bad ones. HUGS

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June 21st, 2009, 11:13 AM
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I am so sorry you are going through this.... I am still waiting for it to get better... I have bad days and worse days.... Not a day goes by that I am not reminded of were I should be.. what I should be feeling, what I should be planning for.. Here I sit empty. No mater where I go.. a newborn or pregnant woman... it seems to cut the wound back open. I hope after July and Sept.... The two months when I would have been due.... It will start to get easier.. since I will no longer be saying that would be me ..... HUGS

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June 21st, 2009, 05:30 PM
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I'm sorry you're having such a rough time, hon. I can't really add anything to what the PP's have said, but I wanted to send you some big *HUGS*

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