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March 11th, 2013, 08:05 AM
lelila's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2012
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I've felt a little lost, trying to find a place I belonged. I'm sorry we are all here, but it's nice to have someone to talk to.

I'm having trouble coping with my 2nd miscarriage at 11 wks. I'm feeling very angry and I've lost hope that we'll ever get pregnant again, much less carry to term. This weekend I started reading up on adoption.

I know it hasn't been that long. 10 days. But I can't ever imagine having hope again. My faith has been shattered.

I know there are no real answers and nothing that anyone can say to help me get through this easier. Even DH is tired of seeing me mope and has stopped with his "it's not your fault, take the time you need to grieve, etc" speech. Yesterday he actually said I had to stop my negativity and start looking at the happiness around me and start smiling again. I actually got mad at him for saying it.

The only happiness I find is when I'm close to my 7 yr old son. I miss him so much when he's at school I want to keep him home, just to make me feel better.

I'm being so selfish.
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March 12th, 2013, 01:10 PM
StephanieMitchell's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: Orlando, FL
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I dont think youre being selfish at all. If I had a child, after what Ive just been through, I dont think I would be able to let them out of my sight either. Its so hard, I know...
My dh was really upset for the first few days, but it seems like he was able to snap back into life pretty quickly. He has been trying to cheer me up, but right now I dont think thats even possible. Sometimes it makes me feel worse. I wish I could just feel normal again.
I know there is nothing I can say that will make you feel better, but I truly believe everything happens for a reason. Only time can heal this much pain, and hopefully make things more clear.
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March 12th, 2013, 04:59 PM
sweety_pie's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Canada
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I've been right where both you ladies are right now 2 times now and it sucks!! Its so heartbreaking to make plans for something and then lose it. My heart ached so bad I thought I would die for sure. Dh definitely snapped back to normal much quicker then I did and even seemed ticked off with my sadness after so long. But its so hard to pull out of it. Time does heal the pain though. HUGS!! Thinking of you both!!
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March 19th, 2013, 07:14 AM
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Join Date: Feb 2013
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Yup, I'm also in the same place you are...lonely, sad, confused, frustrated, angry...every 5 minutes I change my mind, my attitude and my mood. I just don't know what to do with myself

Hang in there...at least we all have each other here! I find it does help to talk to others who have had similar experiences.
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March 20th, 2013, 10:38 PM
Ame C's Avatar Every breath is a gift.
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I'm so sorry. I find myself trying to cope with my feelings from day to day because I can't predict what will set me off, when, and for how long. It's very hard... ((hugs))

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