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October 13th, 2009, 06:55 PM
beck12's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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to bringing a little one home???

Lack of sleep?

Cranked nipples?


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October 14th, 2009, 09:05 AM
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Lots of changes! The biggest adjustment for me has got to be waking up every couple hours to feed. A full night's sleep is a thing of the past. On the weekends my DH takes the middle of the night feeding, but even then it still wakes me up. Although I've gotten a lot more used to it now. But overall he's a really good sleeper. I rarely have to nap during the day. And on the nights when he is up more frequently, he usually sleeps late that morning, so I'm able to make up the lost sleep as well. Such a good baby!

Overall I feel like things are slowly getting back to 'normal.' We are now able to do things together we were not able to do when he was first born, such as cook/eat dinner together. I think a lot of it has to do with knowing him better and understanding what he needs when he cries.

And I can't say it enough...I LOVE being a mother! He's the most amazing person I've ever met.
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October 14th, 2009, 10:05 PM
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Umm, the first few months were hard!!! Lack of sleep and I had problems with anxiety I think. Just a lot of worry about if he was okay, how could I fix the crying, was he getting enough milk, did he have reflux, will he EVER not be in a growth spurt, etc. And the anxiety made it hard to sleep which coupled with sleep deprivation, was not a good thing.

Thankfully things are going a LOT more smoothly now.

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October 24th, 2009, 11:21 PM
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I would have to say, that this time around it was having 3 little ones. It has been a very difficult adjustment because Ben is still a baby himself and Sarah is preschool age. It will get easier, I am told.
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November 19th, 2009, 06:51 PM
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My biggest adjustment was going from 1 to 2 kids. It was the juggling act of being there for Makenna as much as I was before and splitting my time but making more time for Madison so both girls had their needs met and I could spend quality time with both.

The 1st few months were hard. We had some jealousy issues, sharing issues, not wanting me to be with Madison, etc. It took 3-4 months to settle down and we're now in a great routine. I let some things slide in the beginning and depended on DH to pitch in. He made most meals (thankfully it was summer and grilling season) and helped more with household chores.

Once I felt more up to it (I had my gall bladder removed when Madison was 6wks and had a long recovery) I assumed some of my roles again. It's getting easier as the girls get older. I now feel comfortable taking both girls out, grocery shopping, Dr's visits, playdates and other daily events by myself.

My tricks to help me:
* invest in a crock pot
* have enough clothes & towels to last a week without laundry if need be
* make a meal plan and base your grocery list off of it
* freeze meals in advance or take advantage of people who say they will bring a meal
* the theory of "sleep when the baby sleeps" is a mommy myth!!! There is no sleeping with you have a toddler and a newborn!!!
* who cares what the house looks like
* invest in a good baby carrier. I wore Maddie around the house during the colic phase and still wear her everywhere we go. I even sold our double stroller!
* take lots of pictures and write down the little things because it goes by way too fast
* Enjoy every minute!!!
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For the special little one in your life!
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