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January 31st, 2011, 09:16 PM
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I am Stephanie and I married with 6 children. My husband had originally wanted to have another but after getting some horrible news dealing with the structure of my uterus, my doctors put the Mirena back in only to learn that it had not worked the first go around and I was pregnant.

My husband took it as though it was meant to be, I am 11 weeks and still struggling with the whole thought.

We my husband let it slip Sunday I was pregnant, a previous conversation that had taken place over a year ago was brought up. His lesbian sister wanted us to have a baby for her. At the time we said yes down the road, but she took it as though we were making the announcement to surprise her. She is now facebooking about it and is sending me letters of gratitude.

Given the situation we are currently in due to the fact that our 5 month old twins were born at 29 weeks, the thought of another baby scares me. But the thought of giving it to my sil helps.

I would see the baby alot because we are tight knit but don't know if it would make me draw up and not want to go. I know she would be a good parent but now question if I would be asked why I never kept it or would I be saying she is a better parent them me?

Have any of you had a baby adopted by someone you know? How did it work out?
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February 1st, 2011, 10:39 AM
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Hi there, I'm Katie.
I chose adoption for my daugther, but we went through an agency and found an adoptive couple that way. So I'm not much help in the realm of family adoptions, but I am happy to answer any other questions you have!
Momma to Matthew 4-15-09
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March 3rd, 2011, 11:39 AM
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What a conundrum! You have a lot of soul searching to do to find out what is the best answer for you guys. Know that no matter what is decided you are NOT saying anyone is a better mother than you. You would be giving an amazing gift to someone in need. However, as someone who had people I know wanting to adopt my child and denying them, I can say I could not cope with that. That is too close to home for me but I know of people that have made it work.

Please keep us posted on your decision.

Thanks *Kiliki* for the precious siggy!

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