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March 24th, 2010, 12:56 PM
Mega Super Mommy
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So this morning Dh discovers he's lost his check card, has no idea when he even used it last. So we checked the account and it hadn't been used, so I figured it probably is lost in the house somewhere since it has a tendency to fall out of his wallet. But he comes in from Lowe's rushing around like a chicken with his head cut off, while I'm trying to remain calm for being pregnant. Besides what done is done and can't be undone, no crying over spilled milk. I've had my whole wallet stolen at Christmas time, with checks, check card, DL, discount card, some cash, and some gift cards for walmart! So I know how it feels, but online banking was showing the card hasn't been used. But needless to say, he came in and was being hateful to me, not realizing it, and so I smarted off to him as he started out the door to the bank. Well instead of saying baby I'm sorry I've been acting so mean to you, he just starts yelling and screaming at me. It reached the point of him saying something like I hope you lose the baby, I want a divorce. It's bad enough I already feel like he was going to get his car fixed and leave anyway and now he's feeling trapped. Granted I was mad and yelling at him, but after pushing my buttons over the weekend, and basically implying the same things and me telling him Im pregnant and emotional and you expect me not to react. I know I still love him, but I'm so tired of the fighting. I finally came out and asked him if things were going to be any different after baby got here, never got an answer. And he says today I thought you would be happy after you got pregnant because then you would have what you wanted. I've given him the out, and told him that I would take care of the baby if he wanted out.

Dont know if I'm looking for advice or just letting it out. I was so mad/angry at one point that i was like no I wont hit the wall, then as I got up to the doro of our bedroom he said something else and I just up and punched the door frame, so now my right hand seriously hurts if I use the ring and pinkie finger the wrong way.

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March 24th, 2010, 01:02 PM
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Im sorry!! My only advice is to maybe seek some couples counseling. It worked really well for me and DH.

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March 24th, 2010, 01:14 PM
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I really have no advice, but just wanted to give you
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March 24th, 2010, 01:39 PM
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- That must be so hard, I know the extra emotions from your hormones can make it SO tough sometimes to deal with even the smallest fights, but I hope you and DH can work things out and be happy

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March 24th, 2010, 03:10 PM
MommaLee's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry you are having some issues, I have no advice.

I would say to have the card cancelled though. I have been the victim of credit card abuse...it's kind of funny when you work for a law enforcement agency and your coworker has to write up your report. Turns out...that this guy was from another state and tried to "guess" his credit card number supposedly and guessed mine. Not sure I'm real convinced of that, but the bank reversed the charges. And since the charges were under $500, the State would not extradite (from Ohio) so nothing ever came of it. But it was still a pain!
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March 24th, 2010, 03:25 PM
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We went to the bank and ordered a new card, and just called it lost. Which cancelled his card automatically, when he was issued a temp card, with new #. Which I'm sure we'll find in a couple of months, when get really get to cleaning under things as we rearrange the house and setup a nursery, with me doing a lot of put that here, now turn it like this.

On a brighter note when I checked my phone earlier, I had missed a call while we were gone and it was from the health department. I now have my first prenatal appt. scheduled April 12 @ 8:15. It's with the health department, but that will do until I have medicaid and can see my doctor's office. Should only have to do one appt. there before I can get in to my doc's office.

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