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July 24th, 2011, 09:19 AM
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Do you girls have any suggestions on the books I should read to prepare for after my LO is born? I'd like to read up on how to get my baby on a schedule especially and...well, I'm not even sure what else! This is my first and I'm not feeling so prepared !
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July 24th, 2011, 12:17 PM
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I didn't read any books in advance but I have a copy of "What to expect when you're expecting" and referred to it when I needed to. Honestly the first few days and weeks we were really just in "wing it" mode.

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July 24th, 2011, 05:02 PM
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I was given ALOT of books...the only one I read was the counting by weeks. I've heard good things about the one mentioned above (I don't have) and the Girlfriends Guide (do have) but I've never read either of them.
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July 24th, 2011, 06:25 PM
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I read Happiest Baby on the Block - I like the "5 S's" but didn't really follow much else. Also read most of Baby Wise, which DH and I used most when developing a schedule for DS.

As a PP said, we had the What to Expect Books and Dr. Spock, and just refer to them as needed.

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July 25th, 2011, 01:01 PM
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I had lots of books, but by week 2 I wanted to make a big bonfire and burn them all! I'm not sure that it's possible to get babies on a good schedule early on and those that do may be just lucky! All the books had conflicting advice and none of it worked, so they just made me feel like I was doing everything wrong. DS fell into a good schedule at around week 6. I BF him on demand, and he's a happy little guy. Slowly giving his night feedings up now. Our days are pretty predictable and work for me, so I'm a happy girl as well.

I would just take little tidbits from different books but not take any "philosophy" very seriously. In the Baby Whisperer books I liked that she said "begin as you intend to continue." I think this is good advice. If you don't want to co-sleep for your baby's whole infancy, then start by putting them in their crib. Then you don't have to transition later, etc. Also, she gives a little guide about roughly how often they should be eating and sleeping at different ages, which I liked. But otherwise I hated her books because DS would never do the routine she suggested. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't read anything. DH always knew when I had been reading a lot because I would be in tears when he came home. Post-partum hormones + confusing and conflicting advice that makes you feel guilty = sad mom.

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July 25th, 2011, 10:46 PM
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Thanks girls!! I'm afraid I'm not going to have a clue what to do when my baby is born.
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July 27th, 2011, 05:02 AM
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You will surprise yourself and figure it out!! Promise. I felt the same way too. However, I would highly recommend the Happiest Baby on the Block...some of those techniques saved our lives!! And we also used Baby Wise to help us establish a routine and schedule - which IMO is HUGELY important!!! Also, when we were in the hospital they actually had a video of the book Happiest Baby on the Block which was much more helpful to actually see the techniques. Just a thought!

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July 27th, 2011, 09:01 AM
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definitely use the books as a guide only and if something isnt working for you guys, try something different. There is no book ever written about you baby. The early days can be stressful enough without books making you feel like youre doing something wrong! honestly though, youll be fine, you will figure out what works best for you and you bubs.
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July 29th, 2011, 07:04 AM
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I agree with Gwen's post. And Liz's about the bonfire. Lol! Love that. I feel like I read too much, though, and so many books have conflicting information that it made me crazy. Once the baby is here your instincts really take over and you just do what you feel is right. I think once you get to know your baby and if you have questions after that, you'll look for specific info - sleeping, scheduling, etc. But in the meantime, I agree about Happies Baby on the Block and I haven't read Baby Wise, but have heard others say good things about it. But overall my best advice would be to not read too much. You'll do fine.

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