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  #1  
November 10th, 2009, 11:03 AM
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Tonight, John Allen Muhammed, the DC sniper, is being executed. I have been glued to every story I see about him, to see if it was really going to happen. (I admit that I have an unhealthy attachment to this story, as I think I still have slight PTSD from the weeks the DC snipers were on the loose.) I read a story yesterday about how the brother and sister-in-law of one of the victims were going to represent the family of the victim at the execution and it got me thinking. I have always known that family members often attend executions, but I never put myself in the position of the family. If someone in my family were brutally murdered, would I want to see their murderer die? I honestly don't know, but I am leaning towards no. I thought I'd ask you ladies what you would do in a similar situation. I don't neccessarily mean this to be a debate about capital punishment, but whether or not you would want to see your loved one's murderer receive his punishment.
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November 10th, 2009, 11:08 AM
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I can say as of today (without any close family members who have been killed) I can't say I'd watch. I just don't know that I can deal with even more death and horror in my life, and especially not in the mechanical way that is carried out behind that glass wall.

I listen to daily descriptions of death, killing and various stages of injury. I don't want to see more, it wouldnt' do anything positive for me
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November 10th, 2009, 11:24 AM
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No. I'm not into watching people die, if I can help it.
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November 10th, 2009, 11:25 AM
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No. I don't agree with the death penalty so I know I couldn't witness one.
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November 10th, 2009, 11:32 AM
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No, probably not. I'd most likely attend the trial if I was allowed to, but I'd skip the execution.
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November 10th, 2009, 11:55 AM
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I think execution is abhorrent and despicable.

As a family member of the victim, I would not attend. But, that said, as an observer wanting to understand more about how a society could commit such a disgusting and horrific crime and how the individuals responsible for carrying out those orders could do the same, I actually might.

I know, that probably doesn't make any sense. Let me think about that.
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November 10th, 2009, 12:06 PM
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I probably would/could as a victims family member and as an employee.
Being that I am hoping to get a job in the prison system soon (possibly where our death chamber is) it's possible that I would be very involved with the inmate in the time leading up to an being executed. So, on a non-personal/professional level I may as well.
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November 10th, 2009, 12:20 PM
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Never, never, never. I would have an extraordinarily difficult time watching anyone die, ever under any circumstances.
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November 10th, 2009, 12:58 PM
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Yes, I do believe I would. If one of my family members were murdered then I think that I would sit in the execution and watch them die.

I was always against the death penalty but very recently I find myself being pro death penalty.
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November 10th, 2009, 01:04 PM
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Probably not, I just don't think I would get any closure or anything positive from it.
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November 10th, 2009, 01:05 PM
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If it was anyone that killed my family members, especially (god forbid) my child, you can bet I'd watch and be glad to watch them suffer. Is that horrible? Maybe. But if anyone dared to lay a hand on my child in such a way that she loses her life, and it was deliberate, I would have no remorse to watch an execution of her murderer.
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November 10th, 2009, 02:55 PM
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If it was anyone that killed my family members, especially (god forbid) my child, you can bet I'd watch and be glad to watch them suffer. Is that horrible? Maybe. But if anyone dared to lay a hand on my child in such a way that she loses her life, and it was deliberate, I would have no remorse to watch an execution of her murderer.
I agree with this.
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November 10th, 2009, 04:33 PM
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I agree Mom2Froggy
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November 10th, 2009, 05:06 PM
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November 10th, 2009, 05:08 PM
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I'm anti-capital punishment, but I'd watch. Same reason I'd go and watch an autopsy if I got invited - curiosity, interest in biology. I'm not sure I'd be able to go if I were personally invested in the situation, but if I wasn't, then sure.
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November 11th, 2009, 05:36 AM
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I support the DP in very few cases (and this is one of them) but I don't think I'd want to sit there and watch someone die.
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November 11th, 2009, 06:04 AM
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I support the DP in very few cases (and this is one of them) but I don't think I'd want to sit there and watch someone die.
This is how I feel as well.
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November 11th, 2009, 12:53 PM
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I think I would only go if I had a personal connection to the condemned & that person requested I be there for them. Say if it were my brother or something - I couldn't possibly tell him I would not be there to see him off rather than be with strangers wishing him dead...KWIM? As a victim/family side, heck no. Not my thing to immerse myself in vengeance. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn't let myself.
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November 11th, 2009, 05:42 PM
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No way. I don't support the DP, but regardless I wouldn't want to willingly watch someone be killed.
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November 11th, 2009, 07:31 PM
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I probably would/could as a victims family member and as an employee.
Being that I am hoping to get a job in the prison system soon (possibly where our death chamber is) it's possible that I would be very involved with the inmate in the time leading up to an being executed. So, on a non-personal/professional level I may as well.
I find your perspective the most fascinating about this subject. I just don't know if I could do that job. If I did, I'm sure my perspective would be drastically different.

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I think I would only go if I had a personal connection to the condemned & that person requested I be there for them. Say if it were my brother or something - I couldn't possibly tell him I would not be there to see him off rather than be with strangers wishing him dead...KWIM? As a victim/family side, heck no. Not my thing to immerse myself in vengeance. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn't let myself.
Oh Becky.. You are so sweet!

Boy.. I don't know. Two things. First, I remember being at a bar that I won tickets to. Apparently it was night where they show real life videos of pain, and death. They even showed a video that had an execution via lethal injection. It was such a weird experience, that I still can't wrap my brain around how I feel about that other than awful. We had some drinks and even though I wouldn't ever purposely witness something like that, I couldn't help but watch at that moment. (I was like 20ish.) Dh and I left right after that. So having an idea of what to expect might change how I would feel about attending something like that.

Second, I wish I was as kind as Becky. I work hard everyday not repeating the cycle of violence I experienced growing up with my own dd. There are days I want to snap. So like mommy2froggy, if someone were to hurt dd, how could vengeance not be on my mind? Here in Canada we don't put people to death. I'm a partial native woman with an abusive background.. I already see my defense being set up if I became the mourning, partial native mother with an abusive background. I don't know. I think I might snap.
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