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  #1  
June 30th, 2006, 08:04 AM
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If you could choose whether or not your child was born extremely attractive (but not too bright), OR extremely intelligent (but not attractive), which would you choose?

And a seperate, but sort of related question, would you actually do this (allow geneticists to control certain traits in your child) if it were offered to you?
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June 30th, 2006, 08:09 AM
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If you could choose whether or not your child was born extremely attractive (but not too bright), OR extremely intelligent (but not attractive), which would you choose?[/b]
I plan on teaching my kids that attractiveness is from the soul, the heart and the brain. I don't think outer should matter... I wish North America wasn't so vain.. ((That said, my kids are going to be the cutiest kids ever so.... Have you seem my DH (HS) dimples? *sigh* Too cute!)

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And a seperate, but sort of related question, would you actually do this (allow geneticists to control certain traits in your child) if it were offered to you?[/b]
I don't think so but if my child's genetic's health could be avoided or enhanced, I admit I'd totally look into it. OT~ did you know you can get your dna tested and they determine which health illness you're at risk for?
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June 30th, 2006, 08:11 AM
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If you could choose whether or not your child was born extremely attractive (but not too bright), OR extremely intelligent (but not attractive), which would you choose?[/b]
I plan on teaching my kids that attractiveness is from the soul, the heart and the brain. I don't think outer should matter... I wish North America wasn't so vain.. ((That said, my kids are going to be the cutiest kids ever so.... Have you seem my DH (HS) dimples? *sigh* Too cute!)
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Lol, so are you saying you would roll the dice then instead of allowing the scientists to interfere one way or the other?
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June 30th, 2006, 08:15 AM
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If you could choose whether or not your child was born extremely attractive (but not too bright), OR extremely intelligent (but not attractive), which would you choose?[/b]
I plan on teaching my kids that attractiveness is from the soul, the heart and the brain. I don't think outer should matter... I wish North America wasn't so vain.. ((That said, my kids are going to be the cutiest kids ever so.... Have you seem my DH (HS) dimples? *sigh* Too cute!)
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Lol, so are you saying you would roll the dice then instead of allowing the scientists to interfere one way or the other?
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With my stud muffin? Yep! My poor kids will be getting my "mental" capacity though.. poor things.

That's sound really bad.. I think DH is smarter than I.
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June 30th, 2006, 08:52 AM
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If you could choose whether or not your child was born extremely attractive (but not too bright), OR extremely intelligent (but not attractive), which would you choose?

And a seperate, but sort of related question, would you actually do this (allow geneticists to control certain traits in your child) if it were offered to you?[/b]
I would want my child to be intelligent. I don't even need the "extremely". If he's an intelligent, caring and generous person...someone out there will think he's attractive!! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some people think Brad Pitt is drop dead gorgeous...I'm more partial to Tom Hanks. He's never been a "most beautiful person of the year". But I'm attracted to other things...like personality.

And NO I would absolutely NOT ever genetically control traits in my child. Where is the surprise in that? While I was preggo, one of the most fun things for me was to sit and wonder what my child would look like. He's the most adorable baby I've ever seen by the way. Why would I deliberately alter God's plan???
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June 30th, 2006, 08:55 AM
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Why would I deliberately alter God's plan???[/b]
((chuckle)) maybe this one belongs in the religious debates?

((I'm sorry hon ~ I know you're just gleaming about baby.. I would too.))
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June 30th, 2006, 08:57 AM
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Why would I deliberately alter God's plan???[/b]
((chuckle)) maybe this one belongs in the religious debates?

((I'm sorry hon ~ I know you're just gleaming about baby.. I would too.))
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Ooh...too true. Let's make it "mother nature" then!! If She wants to give me a beautiful child, so be it...who am I to argue?? But I'd still take brains over beauty.
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June 30th, 2006, 09:01 AM
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June 30th, 2006, 09:06 AM
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not to be the typical parent, but my baby is beautiful AND smart hehe.

If I could choose between one or the other I would say beauty is from the soul. I dont care if shes a genius or a super model as long as shes happy and healthy thats all that matters to me. I think people are way too hung up on beauty. Its obvious in hollywood these days ppl rather choose beauty than brains (can we say paris, who I dont find that pretty)
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June 30th, 2006, 10:20 AM
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I would choose brains over beauty. I totally agree with all of you that said that beauty comes from within. And IMO someone's personality and wit make them sooo very attractive. I do often sit and wonder what our child is going to look like though. Not because I worry she won't be attractive, but it's just amazing to know that there's going to be a part of me and my traits as well as my DF's. Most importantly I just hope that she's happy and healthy!
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June 30th, 2006, 10:34 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).
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June 30th, 2006, 10:36 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
Hey at least you're honest.. how many women focus their daughters on looking pretty and being submissive..
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
But as long as we let this be the case, things will never change. I for one am not okay with that.
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June 30th, 2006, 11:18 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
But as long as we let this be the case, things will never change. I for one am not okay with that.
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Change it how? Stop going to movies? Stop buying clothes? Not watch television? Stop buying anything that uses an attractive model?
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June 30th, 2006, 11:22 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
But as long as we let this be the case, things will never change. I for one am not okay with that.
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Change it how? Stop going to movies? Stop buying clothes? Not watch television? Stop buying anything that uses an attractive model?
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No. But, stop letting the young girls believe it. Stop telling them that beauty is everything. If WE as women stop believing it...then our generations of girls (and boys) under us will at least have a fighting chance. We learn growing up (at least I did) that I could do anything a boy could do. So, why should I someday tell my daughter (if I have one) that she should really rely on her looks or become a model, because that's the only way she'll be successful? Sorry, but I just don't agree with that. I'm not saying things will change instantly, but it will be a step in the right direction.
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June 30th, 2006, 11:26 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
But as long as we let this be the case, things will never change. I for one am not okay with that.
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Change it how? Stop going to movies? Stop buying clothes? Not watch television? Stop buying anything that uses an attractive model?
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No. But, stop letting the young girls believe it. Stop telling them that beauty is everything. If WE as women stop believing it...then our generations of girls (and boys) under us will at least have a fighting chance. We learn growing up (at least I did) that I could do anything a boy could do. So, why should I someday tell my daughter (if I have one) that she should really rely on her looks or become a model, because that's the only way she'll be successful? Sorry, but I just don't agree with that. I'm not saying things will change instantly, but it will be a step in the right direction.
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If I "had" to choose, I would pick brains. But I wouldnt want to choose, lol. There is no way that I would "tamper" with the process at all!
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June 30th, 2006, 11:29 AM
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I would choose beauty. We live in a culture where good looking people such as models make a LOT more money than intelligent people (teachers, scientists, etc).[/b]
But as long as we let this be the case, things will never change. I for one am not okay with that.
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Change it how? Stop going to movies? Stop buying clothes? Not watch television? Stop buying anything that uses an attractive model?
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How about teaching your daughter that looks aren't everything, and that she can be pretty AND smart? That she can do anything a boy can? That she can be anything she wants to be?
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June 30th, 2006, 11:50 AM
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I for one would choose brains. I'm actually hoping if I do have a daughter she doesn't inherit my physical genes. I developed VERY early and looked like I was about 18 by the time I was 14-I got called "jailbait" in middle school by all the high school guys and TONS of unwanted attention from older men, and had to endure horrible teasing and overall b**hyness from the other girls. I was called a **** constantly (even though I had the same boyfriend all through HS) aweful rumors were started about me including things like I was having sex with teachers, and I was in pornographic movies. I constantly felt like I had to prove I was smart because all people seemed to see when they looked at me was blonde hair and big boobs, and they just assumed I was stupid. It was honestly hell. I would much rather my child have average looks, and be a smart, good hearted person.
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June 30th, 2006, 09:47 PM
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I think Judge Judy says it best "Beauty fades--Dumb is forever" or something to that effect.

Of course I would pick intelligence. If you are smart, you can find a great career where you make a lot of money. Then you can afford a good plastic surgeon and look like a model if you want to do. You can buy good looks but you can't buy a good brain or common sense.
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