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  #1  
July 1st, 2006, 08:02 AM
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Ok, I touched on this in the Britney Spears thread, but I thought it deserved it's own little place So here it is:

Girls nowdays are dressing skimpier and skimpier and at younger and younger ages. It disheartens me!!! I think to myself "You know some guy is driving by looking at that girl thinking he wants her..." all those sick predators out there...yet there are SO MANY little girls (like around 10..12) dressing like Paris Hilton wannabes!!

I just don't understand why anyone would let their little girl leave the house wearing a halter top and mini skirt at such a young age. Well, I'm against it at any age, but you can sneak it out of the house when you are a teen because you have a job and your own money and a car or w/e....but these little girls don't have that. It's (the majority) the parents who buy the clothes.

WHY would you buy your little girl skimpy clothes and then let her wear them?!?! With all the sickos out there....it just burns me.

Anyone stand with me on this one??

As you can see, I blame the parents because it's the parents who buy and then let the girls leave the house wearing this stuff. I don't blame the media. I think the media is more focused on adults and older teenagers...not 10 or 12 year olds. The girls may think "oh, I want to dress like that" because they think it will make them look older or w/e...but um..when we were that age we ALL wanted to grow up fast. So even though they may WANT to look like that, we as parents have to stand our ground and NOT let them dress like that. I blame the parents not the media.
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July 1st, 2006, 08:50 AM
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I agree with you. I don't blame the media for anything...it's us idiots that follow it most of the time! I have a son, but would never allow my daughter to dress like some of the young girls do. In the end, its the parents that need to set boundaries.
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July 1st, 2006, 09:10 AM
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I think moms need to show their daughters that it is possible to be well dressed and pretty, without wearing skimpy clothes.

Sometimes girls have no role models. If mom is a frumpy dresser with no taste (and let's face it, many adults lack taste), how is the daughter going to have any idea what to wear?

All she'll know is that she doesn't want to look like her mom, and jump on the bandwagon of any clothing fad that comes her way.

Moms need to be role models.
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July 1st, 2006, 09:17 AM
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My DD is only 5 and I see to it that she is dressed modestly and don't buy her trashy clothes. Even some little girl clothing is too trashy and she will not be seen wearing it. As she gets older this will probably become more of a battle. DH and I have kind of a plan in place to address clothing issues as she "matures." DD will be allowed to spend her own money buying whatever she wants. I will advise her, but if she insists on spending her own money on something, then she can. BUT, if it doesn't pass muster with me or DH, she will only be allowed to wear it in her bedroom when she is alone. And if she think's shes going to wear one outfit to school and change when she gets there, DH or I will then take the "desperate" measure of driving her to school and escorting her to class personally. I'll report back in 13-15 years as to how well this plan works!

It's the parents fault because they don't have to buy something, although the "media" has gone completely to crap lately and shows way too much that is completely unnecessary.
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July 1st, 2006, 10:33 AM
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Yea Calicocat I do believe some t.v is getting outrageous. I'm shocked at what they show on t.v....I'm like "O_o....can they REALLY put that on there?" lol
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July 1st, 2006, 10:38 AM
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Man, I'm glad I have all boys. I was a teenage girl once though. The decisions I made on what to wear were swayed by what I saw on tv. My mom might not let me out of the house in something, but I could always go over to one of my friend's houses and raid their closet. Yes, parent's can teach their children to respect themselves and not dress like a ****. When girls hit the teenage years though, a lot of what their parent's taught them goes right out the window. They want to fit in and be cool. It's not easy to keep tabs on every single thing they do once they get old enough to drive, etc.
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July 1st, 2006, 12:31 PM
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I blame both.

I see so many little skanky 11yr olds it disgusts me. I was walking down the street and from afar I saw these 2 girls, they looked about my age (21) I was like wow look at those skanks to my bf. (they were wearing short short shorts, barely there tanks. the other wearing such a short skirt I was glad it wasnt a breezy day.) Anyways as we were laughing at how skanky they looked they got closer. Our jaws dropped when we realized they were no older than 13-15. If my daughter went out liek that she would get her butt kicked. Can we say pedophiles dreams come true? I dont know what I woudl do if i saw my daughter out liek that, she wouldnt be going out for a longlong time. I know its hot out right now, but theres more age appropriate clothes for kids out there. I wont even put my 8mth old daughter in a 2 piece bathing suit.
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July 1st, 2006, 01:17 PM
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Totally the parents. These "little" girls can't get those clothes unless their parents buy them. That said, I have gone into Gap or Limited Too for my daughter, who is 7, and they have some TRASHY stuff...for her age! Why does a 7 year old need low rise jeans? Heellooo? And Abercrombie Kids is just as bad. Occasionally I can find cute things but they actually sold THONG underwear for kids. WTH?

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I wont even put my 8mth old daughter in a 2 piece bathing suit.[/b]
Dh said the same...he told our 7 yr old that she couldn't wear a 2 piece till she was a teenager. I was like What are you nuts? That's when we REALLY don't want her to wear one!

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When girls hit the teenage years though, a lot of what their parent's taught them goes right out the window. They want to fit in and be cool. It's not easy to keep tabs on every single thing they do once they get old enough to drive, etc.[/b]
I respectfully disagree with that. If most of what I teach my kids goes right out the window, then I haven't done my job as their parent.
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July 1st, 2006, 01:20 PM
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I don't think the bathing suit thing is a big deal for me. Wether it's a one peice or 2 peice it all shows skin, no biggie. She def. won't be wearing a thong bathing suit...noooooooooooooooo way.

I agree with Lou Lou that if we do our job right, then what we teach out kids "shouldn't" go out the window.
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July 1st, 2006, 02:18 PM
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Just wait until they are 16, then we will talk. It doesn't go out the window and stay gone forever. And sometimes not ALL of it goes out the window. It starts coming back as they mature. Do none of you remember being teenagers? You didn't break any of your parents rules? If you did break a rule, are you saying that they didn't "do their job"?
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July 1st, 2006, 05:57 PM
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It's both. Little girls look up to those they see in the media, and then they beg and beg and beg till they get what they want. Besides, a LOT of the clothes now are just plain skimpy, and some parents just blindly buy it because it's what their girls want, and it's what's available. It's pathetic.

About the whole teenager thing... man when I was teenager all my parents' teaching went out the window. Of course, I was a complete rebel and I wore, and did everything I wanted to. I shouldn't have... but it certainly taught me things. And now I respect and love my parents more than anything. Funny how that works after you become a mom yourself. But that's just my personal experience. I know that's not true with everyone.
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July 1st, 2006, 06:00 PM
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yea I just cant put her in a 2 piece., I dont think an 8mth old needs to expose that much skin. I love her little frilly 1 piece. I do not look down on anyone who does put thier kids in 2 pieces (my sis does with her 4 yr from the time she was a baby to now) I just cant do it lol. My boyfriend wouldnt want it either.
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July 1st, 2006, 06:11 PM
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Just wait until they are 16, then we will talk. It doesn't go out the window and stay gone forever. And sometimes not ALL of it goes out the window. It starts coming back as they mature. Do none of you remember being teenagers? You didn't break any of your parents rules? If you did break a rule, are you saying that they didn't "do their job"?[/b]
Ashes, do you have a teenager? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm honestly asking...

I remember being a teenager and I was a freakin goody-goody. Never drank or smoked (anything). The worst I did was stay out with friends till 3 am, which I will not let my kids do. I don't know if my parents just really trusted me or what but there are times when they definitely should have been more strict and they weren't. Luckily I knew right from wrong. My BIL is a raging example of how NOT to raise a child. He never had any rules or boundaries set and was pretty much allowed to do whatever the H he wanted. He became an alcoholic and drug abuser and can't live on his own now at 19 b/c he can't hold down a job. I've known him since he was 6 and it's amazing to me. Knowing that someone could have been so much more, had their parents just done more. I think that's 100% of the problems that kids have, along with the whole clothing issue. So many parents either don't have time or just don't bother to listen to their kids
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July 1st, 2006, 06:37 PM
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Just wait until they are 16, then we will talk. It doesn't go out the window and stay gone forever. And sometimes not ALL of it goes out the window. It starts coming back as they mature. Do none of you remember being teenagers? You didn't break any of your parents rules? If you did break a rule, are you saying that they didn't "do their job"?[/b]
Ashes, do you have a teenager? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm honestly asking...

I remember being a teenager and I was a freakin goody-goody. Never drank or smoked (anything). The worst I did was stay out with friends till 3 am, which I will not let my kids do. I don't know if my parents just really trusted me or what but there are times when they definitely should have been more strict and they weren't. Luckily I knew right from wrong. My BIL is a raging example of how NOT to raise a child. He never had any rules or boundaries set and was pretty much allowed to do whatever the H he wanted. He became an alcoholic and drug abuser and can't live on his own now at 19 b/c he can't hold down a job. I've known him since he was 6 and it's amazing to me. Knowing that someone could have been so much more, had their parents just done more. I think that's 100% of the problems that kids have, along with the whole clothing issue. So many parents either don't have time or just don't bother to listen to their kids
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No, my oldest is 10. I basically raised my brother when he was a teen, but I was really young then too. I was once a teenage myself though. It might have been 10 years ago but I remember it well. Every kid does something to rebel, even if it is something small. No teenager listens to their parents 100% of the time and if you think yours do, you are totally snowed.
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July 1st, 2006, 09:10 PM
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Totally the parents. These "little" girls can't get those clothes unless their parents buy them. That said, I have gone into Gap or Limited Too for my daughter, who is 7, and they have some TRASHY stuff...for her age! Why does a 7 year old need low rise jeans? Heellooo? And Abercrombie Kids is just as bad. Occasionally I can find cute things but they actually sold THONG underwear for kids. WTH?

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I wont even put my 8mth old daughter in a 2 piece bathing suit.[/b]
Dh said the same...he told our 7 yr old that she couldn't wear a 2 piece till she was a teenager. I was like What are you nuts? That's when we REALLY don't want her to wear one!

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When girls hit the teenage years though, a lot of what their parent's taught them goes right out the window. They want to fit in and be cool. It's not easy to keep tabs on every single thing they do once they get old enough to drive, etc.[/b]
I respectfully disagree with that. If most of what I teach my kids goes right out the window, then I haven't done my job as their parent.
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July 1st, 2006, 09:29 PM
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I totally agree that there are a lot of young girls dressed way too skimpy, but I have to disagree on the bathing suit thing.
I have girls, (my oldest is 8) and I have absolutely no problem with them wearing bikini's. I don't really know what the difference is having a child wear a 1 piece or a bikini (except that one of my girls never has a wedgie bum anymore because her bikini bottoms are boy shorts).
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July 2nd, 2006, 08:22 AM
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Just wait until they are 16, then we will talk. It doesn't go out the window and stay gone forever. And sometimes not ALL of it goes out the window. It starts coming back as they mature. Do none of you remember being teenagers? You didn't break any of your parents rules? If you did break a rule, are you saying that they didn't "do their job"?[/b]
Ashes, do you have a teenager? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm honestly asking...

I remember being a teenager and I was a freakin goody-goody. Never drank or smoked (anything). The worst I did was stay out with friends till 3 am, which I will not let my kids do. I don't know if my parents just really trusted me or what but there are times when they definitely should have been more strict and they weren't. Luckily I knew right from wrong. My BIL is a raging example of how NOT to raise a child. He never had any rules or boundaries set and was pretty much allowed to do whatever the H he wanted. He became an alcoholic and drug abuser and can't live on his own now at 19 b/c he can't hold down a job. I've known him since he was 6 and it's amazing to me. Knowing that someone could have been so much more, had their parents just done more. I think that's 100% of the problems that kids have, along with the whole clothing issue. So many parents either don't have time or just don't bother to listen to their kids
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No, my oldest is 10. I basically raised my brother when he was a teen, but I was really young then too. I was once a teenage myself though. It might have been 10 years ago but I remember it well. Every kid does something to rebel, even if it is something small. No teenager listens to their parents 100% of the time and if you think yours do, you are totally snowed.
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See, I think that attitude is why kids rebel. That "oh well, they're not going to listen to me anyway" Yes, there will be times when dd and ds will do what they want but it won't be drinking or doing drugs or having sex all of the time, skipping school or just doing whatever the H they want. If they behave that way then no, I have not done my job as their mother. I also think it's insulting to say that I'm totally snowed. IMHO, there are enough arrogant, self-absorbed, don't give a d*mn teenagers out there and my kids won't be like that. It starts when they're young too. You can't wait until they're teenagers and then expect them to know right from wrong and listen to everything you say. I know how our kids will be raised, that doesn't make me naive or "snowed".
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July 2nd, 2006, 08:31 AM
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See, I think that attitude is why kids rebel. That "oh well, they're not going to listen to me anyway" Yes, there will be times when dd and ds will do what they want but it won't be drinking or doing drugs or having sex all of the time, skipping school or just doing whatever the H they want. If they behave that way then no, I have not done my job as their mother. I also think it's insulting to say that I'm totally snowed. IMHO, there are enough arrogant, self-absorbed, don't give a d*mn teenagers out there and my kids won't be like that. It starts when they're young too. You can't wait until they're teenagers and then expect them to know right from wrong and listen to everything you say. I know how our kids will be raised, that doesn't make me naive or "snowed".[/b]
Whoa...back that horse up honey. We are not talking about drinking, drugs, sex, etc. I didn't say that they are going to do whatever they want. I do not have a "oh well, they're not going to listen to me anyway" attitude. No matter how good of a parent you are, you kids are going to disagree with you on some issues. You kids are going to do something that they know they shouldn't at least once in their life. And if you think they are going to follow the rules 100% of the time and never disagree with you, you live in fantasy land. Do you not remember being a teen? Did you never get in trouble for something?
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July 2nd, 2006, 08:58 AM
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There's a big difference in knowing that a teenager will test the limits and just saying "Oh well, why bother. Teenagers just do whatever they want and parents can't do anything about it. So I might as well give in on everything--anything goes--whatever they want to wear, put in their body, do with their body. What can I do about it?"

My parents definitely did not take this attitude with me--they supervised me, checked up on me, told me a big fat NO when I needed to hear it and kept me in line. And unlike "most kids" who have been raised in a strict home, and who leave that home and rebel when they get to college or out on their own, I did not. Most of my friends (raised in similarly "strict" homes) didn't either. I did enjoy the new freedom, but I didn't go off the wall.

I think the positive influence that parents can be on most teenagers has been completely discounted just because a small percentage of kids do completely rebel. There is nothing anyone can for those except hope they come around eventually, but most teenagers don't go that far.
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