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November 28th, 2006, 02:53 PM
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No they should not fear their parents. I was made to fear my parents through abuse, and I refuse to have my children fear me. There is a huge difference between respect and fear. I want my children to respect me. I do NOT want them to fear me.
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November 28th, 2006, 03:13 PM
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No they should not fear their parents. I was made to fear my parents through abuse, and I refuse to have my children fear me. There is a huge difference between respect and fear. I want my children to respect me. I do NOT want them to fear me.[/b]
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November 28th, 2006, 03:39 PM
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No they should not fear their parents. I was made to fear my parents through abuse, and I refuse to have my children fear me. There is a huge difference between respect and fear. I want my children to respect me. I do NOT want them to fear me.[/b]


I want my kids to do right because they respect me and because they want to do good,not because they fear me.Kids who fear their parents usually just go behind their backs.I want them to know they can come to me with anything and not have to fear my reaction.

I find it sad when I hear that people want their kids to fear them why would anyone want their child to be brought up in fear?
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November 28th, 2006, 03:40 PM
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Parents should not be feared. Trust and respect is necessary for the relationship to be healthy. I want my son to be comfortable coming to me for or with anything and know that I'll listen with an open mind. He may not always like my response...but he won't be afraid to ask for it.
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November 28th, 2006, 03:44 PM
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I don't want my children to be afraid of me . My parents abused us growing up and I will not do that to my kids but my kids know if they need it they will get a spanking. But they are not afriad. if children are afraid of their paremnts then the parents are bullys in my eyes.
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November 28th, 2006, 05:53 PM
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I like what D.J. said about fear of the consequences of misbehavior. I want my kids to feel like they can come to me with anything and know I will love them and accept them no matter what has happened.
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November 29th, 2006, 05:51 AM
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It is one thing to fear consequences, another thing entirely to fear the parent. If a child fears their parents, I totally believe that, in later years, it will lead to resentment as that child is unlikely to feel safe at home and like they can come to his/her parents for support when it's needed.
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