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 Let's spice it up here a bit.
So many people are offended by the term breeder when referred to people having children. How do you feel about it?
I agree with it. Flame away!
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I agree with you. However my definition of "breeder" may be different. IMO, if a woman can't feed the kid(s) she already has without using food stamps, food pantries, etc... she has no business bringing another life into the world (on purpose) for the rest of us to feed. I have a real problem with women who have child after child on purpose yet cannot support them without government assistance... thats my def of "breeder".
I saw a bumper sticker once... "Can't Feed'em, Don't Breed'em".
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I really thought I'd see more outcry but not even one vote to be offensive! Maybe I'll add it under my avatar then.
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I don't consider the term offensive, though, I wouldn't want to be labeled a breeder, myself. If someone were to call me a breeder, I don't think it would bother me, necessarily, I just know that my responsibility didn't end at conception.
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I agree with you. However my definition of "breeder" may be different. IMO, if a woman can't feed the kid(s) she already has without using food stamps, food pantries, etc... she has no business bringing another life into the world (on purpose) for the rest of us to feed. I have a real problem with women who have child after child on purpose yet cannot support them without government assistance... thats my def of "breeder".
I saw a bumper sticker once... "Can't Feed'em, Don't Breed'em".[/b]
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That I agree with.
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I think it's offensive.
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It doesn't bother me at all. There are far worse names we could be called.
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I think breeder is a great term. I picked agree with it to be a smart aleck because I embrace the breeder title and am proud to have (or want to have) lots of kids
ETA: My definition of a breeder is simply someone who has lots of kids.
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Hmmm... I'm not sure my thoughts on this. My only qualm would be that being labeled as a breeder seems to imply that that is one's ONLY purpose, or job in life. To me, being a mother is so much more than that... I'm not like a dog breeder, trying to just pop out perfectly engineered little babies only to give away, or raise for show or something... you know?
Don't know if that makes sense... lol. But there you go.
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I'm pretty sure I have heard a lesbian couple (on tv) refer to straight women as "breeders", but I can't remember what show it was on. I don't really care about it because I'm only planning on having 2 kids and I doubt if anyone would call me that. If anyone did I guess I would probably laugh
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Eh, I'm impartial to it. I prefer to say I "spawn" children, rather than breed them, lol.
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For me the term breeder depends on what context it's being refered to. With that being said, I'm neutral to the term. It doesn't offend me, but my view of a breeder wouldn't apply to all women.
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I'm so surprised at these answers. Breeder has been a derogatory term applied to heterosexual couples by prodominately over-zealous homosexuals.. but, I think it's great so many people are ok with it.
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Breeder is just that a person that chooses to breed (bare a child) I did there for I am a breeder and I take no offence to it.
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I find it offensive. I think some people do just have kids and not take care of them, but that doesn't mean that person should be reduced to having the same thing that is said about animals to be said about them. Children are blessings and gifts even if they came from good parents and bad parents. They aren't being "bred", they are being "born". It not only reduces the parent to that of animals, but the children as well. Very offensive in my opinion.
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I take offense to the term because any time I have had it directed to me, it was intended to be offensive.
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I take offense to the term because any time I have had it directed to me, it was intended to be offensive.[/b]
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Do people give you those "oh don't you know what causes that" kind of comments?
I was jw...I mean I think it's cool if you want to have a lot of kids but I can imagine that people might look at you wierd or make rude comments.
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Yes, I have had a lot of comments directed at me. IRL people are usually just curious. Mostly I hear "you have your hands full". The comment of "don't you know what causes that" is easy... there are plenty of snappy and embarrassing comebacks to that one. I've encountered a lot more rudeness online than IRL.
You don't smile at a new mom and say "you must be such a proud breeder!" No, you call her a Mother, or Mommy, or whatever. I have NEVER seen the label used in a way that wasn't derogatory.
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You don't smile at a new mom and say "you must be such a proud breeder!" No, you call her a Mother, or Mommy, or whatever. I have NEVER seen the label used in a way that wasn't derogatory.[/b]
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LOL good point!
I would never use that as anything but a term for someone who breeds dogs. (or cats I guess but I don't see the point in breeding cats)
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Yes, I have had a lot of comments directed at me. IRL people are usually just curious. Mostly I hear "you have your hands full". The comment of "don't you know what causes that" is easy... there are plenty of snappy and embarrassing comebacks to that one. I've encountered a lot more rudeness online than IRL.
You don't smile at a new mom and say "you must be such a proud breeder!" No, you call her a Mother, or Mommy, or whatever. I have NEVER seen the label used in a way that wasn't derogatory.[/b]
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Jennifer - I grew up in a family with 6 kids. It never failed that whenever we'd go anywhere as a family, someone would say "Wow - are those all your kids?" My dad would just smile and say "Nah, we left the rest of them at home."
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