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  #2  
May 31st, 2007, 10:24 AM
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I think that your question and concern was definitely within the realm of a reasonable question to ask your ped. and if they felt that they couldn't help you or that it wasn't within their "job responsibility" then they should have offered to give you a referral to a behavioral therapist. IMO.
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May 31st, 2007, 10:25 AM
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That sounds ridiculous to me. A good doctor should be a balance of both and should at least be willing to field questions about behavior! Sometimes behavior can be an indication of other things going on health-wise (not saying that's what is happening with your DS), and doctors should at least be somewhat well-versed in toddler behavior. Then again, it was a nurse you spoke to and she may just not feel like passing the message on. That's happened to me at my office, so when I call, I leave a message for the doctor and specify that I want to speak with the doctor and the doctor ONLY. I would either call specifically for the doc or look around for another doc, at least to get a second opinion. HTH.
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May 31st, 2007, 10:46 AM
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I think that your question and concern was definitely within the realm of a reasonable question to ask your ped. and if they felt that they couldn't help you or that it wasn't within their "job responsibility" then they should have offered to give you a referral to a behavioral therapist. IMO.[/b]
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May 31st, 2007, 10:48 AM
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I agree that a ped should be there for any issues you have. Mine will help me out on anything from latch issues to potty training - or refer me to someone who can. I would be bugged if mine had that attitude. It's like they almost can't be bothered unless your child is dying or has a serious illness.
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May 31st, 2007, 10:52 AM
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For us, the pediatrician is really used for physical needs, check ups, shots, etc. She does ask how my kids are doing developmentally etc but that's about it. My DS is going through the clingy phase as well, I hope he gives you some peace and rest.
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May 31st, 2007, 10:53 AM
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Sounds reasonable to me as well..

Double Ditto..
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May 31st, 2007, 10:55 AM
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I also completely agree with you, they sould have either been willing to help you or at the very least refer you to somebody who could. Thats rediculous and I would have been angry too!!
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May 31st, 2007, 11:00 AM
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Even though a pediatrician may not be able to "fix" a problem that isn't a physical one it is still their job to treat the patient as a whole. The Dr should be there to offer you guidance and advice. They often times will recommend a specialist for you to see according the problem. I think it is very sad that the office reacted that way.

If I were you I'd look into finding a more caring and compassionate Dr. They aren't all that uncaring. Good luck! Oh, and what your son is going through is actually fairly normal at his age. It is separation anxiety. Look up so info on the computer about ways to ease his fear when you have to leave him.
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May 31st, 2007, 11:38 AM
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Even though a pediatrician may not be able to "fix" a problem that isn't a physical one it is still their job to treat the patient as a whole. The Dr should be there to offer you guidance and advice. They often times will recommend a specialist for you to see according the problem. I think it is very sad that the office reacted that way.[/b]
Exactly. Our ped will at least provide some insight to behavior issues, regardless of whether they're normal age-appropriate things or they signal something more urgent. They can't treat behavioral issues - for example, if a child shows anger management issues beyond what is typical for his age. In that case, our ped would refer the child to a counselor or psychologist.

But if your child is showing normal behavior (separation anxiety, etc.), then a ped should at least be able to give advice on how to work through it with your child. Heck, the nurses should also be able to help with that. At our ped's office, both the docs and the nurses can do this.
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May 31st, 2007, 06:56 PM
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My dad is a ped and ALWAYS recommends behavioral interventions if asked about them, or refers parents where they can get the help. I COMLETLY think its part of the job of the ped.
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May 31st, 2007, 07:34 PM
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I think you should just ignore the nurse and ask the ped. for advice. Nurses definately don't speak for doctors - the nurse at my DD's ped. really is a jerk...although generally, my DD's ped. doesn't have great suggestions, I get a lot of them from other moms IRL and online. lol
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June 1st, 2007, 05:50 AM
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I think that your question and concern was definitely within the realm of a reasonable question to ask your ped. and if they felt that they couldn't help you or that it wasn't within their "job responsibility" then they should have offered to give you a referral to a behavioral therapist. IMO.[/b]
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Ditto!! I can see how they wouldn't have as much advice as a behavioral therapist but they should have been able to make some suggestions.
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June 1st, 2007, 06:29 AM
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I guess Im out of the trend, because I just dont think I would count on my ped to give me all the answers. I would ask him if he knew anyone who specilialized in that, but thats all.

I think these days everyone runs to their ped over every little thing. And I dont believe they have advice/answers to everything.
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