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July 2nd, 2013, 12:35 PM
FyreMommy2B's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Hi ladies,
Our 3 year old daughter is reading what we have been told is on a 2nd grade level. Does anyone know of any good sources for Gifted & Talented Information for how to proceed with regards to her education? We want her to start the PreK 4yr old program this Fall2013 but she misses the birthday cutoff date by 2 days. She turns 4 on Oct 4 and the cutoff is Oct2. We are being told she can't be evaluated until Kindergarten at which point, because of her birthday, she would be 6 and missing out on 2 years of educational opportunities. We are a military family and can't afford private school (unless we can find a grant or scholarship for her).

We are considering having her evaluated to start a paper trail and get some help with her special educational needs.

A little about Ash: She can read completely on her own without any assistance except for the occasional big word, knows all her shapes and then some (dodecahedron, cube, cylinder etc), colors, counts to 100, can tell time on the clock, knows days of the week and months of the year, is doing early basic math and starting to write her letters, knows punctuation & their meanings, vowels, consonants, all the planets in order etc She must get it from my husband who is a Flight Engineer Instructor, definitely not from me!

Any advice is greatly appreciated! Thank you!

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July 3rd, 2013, 12:44 PM
Butter's Avatar Heather the Mama Duk
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If your school district is firm on dates and ages, there is nothing you can do as far as public school goes. I hate to break it to you, but even an evaluation may not help. Don't waste your money unless you get, in writing, from the school system that they will take her at her age. Chances are, though, they won't. Schools tend to be big into kids being close to the same age, particularly in the early years. Some won't even consider acceleration period. Your best bet is to homeschool her and honestly, I'd just keep doing what you're doing. It's working extremely well so far after all.

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July 3rd, 2013, 03:17 PM
bookworm16_2000's Avatar Mom to Allison and JR
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I've got a 3 year old daughter that sounds much like yours- reading, counting, shapes, basic addition and subtraction, writing... We have been homeschooling since August of 2012. I had planned on doing preschool a couple of days a week, with lots of fun activities. She had other plans. We did kindergarten 4 or 5 days a week from October until March (when she was finished with everything I could come up with ). We are starting first grade with her on July 29.

As a former public school teacher, I know my local schools are very firm on ages and dates. If your child's birthday is after the cut off, you're out of luck until they are the correct age. It doesn't matter how advanced or what level they are at. Once they are third grade age (8-9 years old, depending on birthday), they will move a child up one grade level and no more!

I had always planned on homeschooling (for other reasons) but after watching my daughter start kindergarten at 2.5 and working at the same level as a typical 5 or 6 year old, I knew that my local public schools would not be an option! I recommend looking into homeschooling for her.

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July 4th, 2013, 04:12 PM
BensMom's Avatar Ephesians 4:29
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Also a former teacher here, and also have two kids who sound like yours. We officially started homeschooling 1st grade when my oldest was 3.5, and it's gone great ever since. He's 7 now, and he'll be starting mostly 5th grade material this year (some higher). My younger is 4, and he'll be doing 2nd grade at home this year. We've done evaluations, but unless you have a specific reason for needing this (like to get into a gifted program other than public school), it's just a lot of money out of pocket. (Our eval for just one child cost around $3k.)

The only drawback to at home acceleration is asynchrony. My kids are very age-appropriate in social and motor skills, so they still like to play with kids who are their ages (give or take a couple years), and they still can't do the writing that is expected at a classroom level of their ability. They don't participate in academic co-ops or classes because of this. The material is no problem at all, but the writing and the social differences are just too great. (Who wants a 7 year old boy in a class of tween girls???) Our lessons are modified at home to be done orally, on the computer, and/or with less writing than would otherwise be necessary. We also skip all the "busy work" that is built into most curricula (because a lot of stuff is written with a classroom in mind, knowing some kids will need work to keep them busy, and some kids will need extra practice to master a concept ... especially with math). Our social outlets are bowling, gymnastics, scouts, church, summer camps, and playdates with friends. In classroom settings (like church or summer camp), I keep my kids at or just one year above their peers so that they don't stick out so much. Officially (for record keeping), I keep them at their grade level as if they'd be in public school. That way, they're (for example), the smartest 2nd grader in the spelling bee rather than the average 6th grader.

If you move around a lot, homeschooling can also provide a smoother transition for your kids. They won't be jumping from one curricula to another, leaving gaps in their educations.

If homeschooling isn't an option, start looking at lotteries for public charter schools. Some are great, and some are worse than regular public schools, so be sure to do your research.

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July 17th, 2013, 06:48 AM
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The other replies are exactly what I was going to say. But from personal experience I will add this:

Even if the public school takes your child early, it doesn't mean they will know what to do with them once they get there. Remember, they are teaching to a class of 20+ kids and will likely not cater the curriculum for your child even if it's too easy. Most schools will spend far more time and resources helping the struggling child and not the child who needs more challenge. You child will likely be bored to death in public school.

I agree. Homeschool. You won't regret it. I wish I had done it.

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