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December 24th, 2008, 09:59 AM
Join Date: Dec 2008
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Hello Everyone,

I need some advice on how to react or deal with this situation.

I found out a month ago that I was pregnant and told my boyfriend. We already have another child together.

He proceeded to tell his sister because he needed to tell "someone". I was fine with it as long as she would not disclose the info to any one else in the family and he had already told her anyway and had asked her not to say anything.

I was planning a big surprise annoucement for tonight's christmas family get together but found out from my boyfriend that everyone in his family already knows through his cousin who lives out of state.

My SIL broke the news for me. I feel betrayed, disrespected, sad and mad. I don't understand why women can't keep their mouth shut :-)

As a result, I have no desire to attend the Christmas get together in fear that I will either want to hit her or blow up and make a big scene. I realize that I am pregnant and full of emotions but would like to know if anyone thinks I am overreacting. I really don't want to ruin anyone's Christmas Party and think it would be best if I do not go.

I have no family in this country and Christmas time is particularly difficult for me anyway. I always have to deal with the IL women and don't really want to put up with it anymore. I know that they constantly talk behind my back and never have nothing nice to say about me....typical IL and therfore nothing new to anyone...

My boyfriend also thinks that it was not nice of his sister to disclose the info but that's as far as it goes. Should he not stand behind me and tell her it was wrong?

Thanks in advance for your feedback and Joeux Noel!

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December 29th, 2008, 01:46 AM
Ellemphriem's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jul 2008
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Hi hun,

Are they happy for you guys? That's the question you have to ask yourself according to me. And yes you are hormonal right now. You know already since you have another child that this gets worse AFTER delivery. I'd say if they are happy for you guys and embrace you, you stop being hormonal, enjoy your pregnancy AND the fact that you SO loves you and this pregnancy so much that he 'had' to tell someone ASAP....some men don't even wanna know KWIM???

Merry Christmas......

" \m/ Now Iím riding through the air
going to where no one dares
on the way Iíll cross the line forevermore \m/ "

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