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March 11th, 2009, 09:56 PM
Join Date: Mar 2009
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ok, i have this friend (who happens to be a guy) who i feel like i've always been able to talk to about anything and everything for the last 4 years or so. well i was talking to him today and he was being UNBEARABLE.

we were talking and he asked me about my wedding planning, how it's going and such... i told him it's going pretty well, but my period is 3 weeks late so if i end up being pregnant then my df (who i've been with for 4 and 1/2 years) and i are going to move the wedding up to next month probably (it was supposed to be in june), so that my dress will still fit.

he starts being all negative and suggesting that if i'm pregnant or get pregnant that my relationship is going to fail just because 3 of his buddies (supposedly) got married AND pregnant and their relationships ended in nasty divorces (take note that i don't know ANY of these buddies, so i feel like he's making it up to try and put me down... and also, how likely is it that he has 3 buddies who have had the EXACT same experience? and he later told me, "well those are the only three friends i have that have gotten married". yeahhh, ok, sure.).

i'm so p*ssed right now just thinking about it. this friend is unhappy. he works 70 hours a week and can't hold a girlfriend because of it. he's a nice guy, but always tells me about girls he picked up in bars... i try to be a good friend, so i tell him it's not healthy, but listen to his stories despite... and we've always been supportive until each other, until he started this bull!

i would never usually say anything like this, but i feel like he's jealous because i'm so happy and he can't seem to make anything work in his life except his job.

then after he told me about his (possibly made-up) 3 buddies, he goes on to tell me that pregnancy and marriage leads to infidelity and lack of communication. i can't believe he has the nerve to even SAY that, muchless to me!!! like he knows anything about it? he can't even hold a relationship for more than a month!

ahhh!!! SERIOUSLY!?

thank god for the venting room!
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March 16th, 2009, 07:03 AM
Alchemist's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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boundaries honey, boundaries!!!!

he sounds silly. i mean what does he know about relationships? it is possible that his friends got pg and then forced to marry, so its very different from your situation. my advice, if hes this toxic , dump him!!!!
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March 16th, 2009, 06:43 PM
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(((HUGS))) I have to agree with Alchemist on this one! I don't think he is anyone that I would want to be hanging around like that.
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March 18th, 2009, 10:11 AM
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Originally Posted by in_mommy View Post
(((HUGS))) I have to agree with Alchemist on this one! I don't think he is anyone that I would want to be hanging around like that.
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March 23rd, 2009, 07:23 PM
in_mommy's Avatar I am just me
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How are things going now??
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