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July 10th, 2009, 06:22 PM
*Kiliki*'s Avatar i have absolute power
Join Date: Dec 2008
Location: By a Cornfield, Nebraska
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feel walked all over by your husband/so??? seriously...i do sometimes!! and it grates my nerves!! like today i have been running around town today like a chicken with my head cut off...doing dishes trying to get laundry done....going to store after store to find what i need for our daughter so she can ride on the back of his motorcycle i seriously went to NINE stores to find the right kind of boots for her to wear NINE stores and they were scattered ALL OVER TOWN not in one spot not 5 mins apart but anywehre from 5-30mins apart....not only that but i go and buy a helmet and good pants.....so i come home...he gets home from work i make him dinner and bring it to him IN BED!!!! and then he starts freaking cause i might have washed his smokes....cause apparently its my job to check his pants before i wash them!?!?! gah!!!! thanks for making me feel like crap!!!! appreciate it!!!

Kristy, wife to Karl 6.16.01, Mom to Raianna 12.7.00, Elyse 12.3.02 and Helena 7.20.07, step-mom to Frankie 7.3.97 and step-grandma to October 3.9.15

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July 12th, 2009, 01:45 AM
Cheet_oh's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I'm sorry

I don't feel walked on by DH, sometimes he's oblivious and inconsiderate but it's because he's clueless at times, I know he wouldn't do it to truly hurt me... like my ex would have.

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July 13th, 2009, 10:58 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: cny
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* raises hand over here...*

Yes sometimes mine is cluless also... BUT

When i spacificly say something & he goes ahead & does it anyway UGGGRRR !!! & Sometimes he's mean when he says something to me & he KNOWS it hurts me YET he can't say sorry UUGGG

I'm sorry but yes i hear you

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August 4th, 2009, 04:08 PM
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When i spacificly say something & he goes ahead & does it anyway UGGGRRR !!! & Sometimes he's mean when he says something to me & he KNOWS it hurts me YET he can't say sorry UUGGG

Sorry about your dh.. I do check dh pockets but at times ive been in a rush or thinking about other things and something will go through the wash. I think it happens to everyone time to time.

I think alot of husbands expect their wifes to be their mother. Jump off one boob onto the other.
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August 14th, 2009, 09:05 PM
in_mommy's Avatar I am just me
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(((HUGS))) How are things now?
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August 27th, 2009, 07:51 PM
mom2more's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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I would say that if he is upset then the reasonable solution would be for him to wash his own clothes! This way his smokes will never be washed again!

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August 29th, 2009, 09:27 PM
Kalia20's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: ontario canada
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I made it quite clear to my SO when we first moved in together, I dont check pockets, if i wash something, its not my fault. He left a yellow grease pencil in one of his pockets and a lot of our stuff got yellow all over it. He tried getting mad at me, I told him, I SAID to empty your pockets, dont blame me. I always empty mine, you do the same. Never been a problem since.

I do understand the feeling walked on bit. We got in a big fight one night and he told me Im extremely lazy and do nothing (as in housework) all day. Oh yeah? So I literally did NOTHING for three days. Drove me nuts, but it got the point across. Its so hard to keep a place looking clean with a baby, but you can tell when the floors are cleaned, laundry, dishes, etc. He doesnt complain anymore and took it back.

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October 18th, 2009, 10:53 PM
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you are so not alone!!!
guys cann really be clueless, very discouraging...

I'm going to try that "do nothing for 3 days" and see what they notice...
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October 20th, 2009, 09:49 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2009
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you are so not alone!
I feel the same way sometimes too
my SO works out of town 2weeks and comes home for a week, and i dont understand how he can just up and decide he can sit around and do nothing.
Last time he was home we got his 2yr old son for the week. I cooked,cleaned..bathed, put him for a nap and bed..changed his butt,did homework with my daughter..bathed her..played with them..all the normal stuff and he had the nerve to tell me i was lazy and sit on my butt all day long..
So I went off at him. just because his job is more physically demanding for 12hrs/day doesnt give him the right to come home and do nothing. My job is 24/7 and never ends..and i love it. SOOO after i got mad at him he started helping out a bit.
We will see how it goes when he comes home this week. We get his son again. We will see
but you are soo not alone

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