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November 10th, 2010, 11:50 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2008
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My DH and I have had major problems with finances since we began living with his family. He secretly moved his Sister into our place without ever consulting me. That was back in Feb of 2009. She lived with us for 5 months rent free and was completely inconsiderate. My DH borrowed money from her without letting me know.

We currently live with his parents. Its been this way since May 2010. SIL lived with us from May-Sept then moved in with her BF. The total rent was 1500 + utilities.

SIL paid 400.
DH paid 600 + 1/2 utilities
IL's paid 500 + 1/2 utilities

That is what my DH told me.

He talks to his family in their language (Burmese) and I am totally left out of all important conversations. My DH owes so much money that he had to declare bankruptcy. We cannot break even still.

This is why.

DH has been paying for ALL of the utilities. 150 for ph/int/tv. 30 for gas. 150 for hydro. His parents make him pay for part of their food which is another 200. Our portion of the rent is really 800. He borrows money from them on a regular basis.

I am fuming mad over this and I am having serious doubts in our marriage. I confront him about deceiving me and he says "but they are my parents so there is nothing I can do".

I am going to speak privately with his trustee and tell him what is going on. DH won't listen to me so maybe a professional can show him.

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November 11th, 2010, 01:55 PM
pink_piggy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Location: Las Vegas, NV
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Wow I definitely think you should talk to his trustee, that is not right that your dh is keeping you in the dark like that. I would be beyond peeved. And having to pay for your IL's food?!??! seriously! GL lady. *hugs*
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November 22nd, 2010, 07:37 AM
in_mommy's Avatar I am just me
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I am sorry that my response to this seems to be gone You need to sit down with him and have a serious heart to heart!! I would be upset beyond words as well! He needs to pay attention and get his act together before he looses his most valuable asset, YOU!! I hope you can make some progress with this!
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