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June 2nd, 2006, 05:52 PM
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I knew that when I married him that he was NOT romantic (I'm fine with that).
He doesn't come home with flowers or candy or cards...not even for my birthday or anniversary.

I like spending "quality time" with him...that's how I feel loved. Whereas he feels loved
when I do things for him like cook, clean, etc.


DH worked some overtime and so our paycheck had $200.00 extra dollars....

Instead of planning a "date night" or something of the sort...He plans an overnight
camping/fishing trip with a co-worker and has left me (7 months pregnant) with
our 15 month old son by our lonesome.

He decides to spend the extra money for new fishing supplies, beer, and whatever
else he needed for the trip.

Whenever we have extra money, he spends it on himself, his car, his truck, to buy new
tools, etc. etc.

In my opinion...He's SELFISH, SELFISH, SELFISH
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June 2nd, 2006, 07:39 PM
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It is selfish. I don't know if you are a SAHM, but ESPECIALLY then, the extra money is osmething you both should decide how to spend. GRRRR - MEN!

I definately think you need to confront this behavior. Not yelling of course - but telling him how it makes you feel. I have at times fantacized when Dh does something he enjoys & has lef tme at home ticked - that I will call insessantly on his ccell, call wherever he is, do this or that to make sure he doesn't enjoy it. I never do it in the end - becaue I don't want to handle it that way - but it does help me sometime sto at least "dream" about doing it.
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June 3rd, 2006, 12:09 AM
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I would take half the amount to buy something for myself or the baby if my DH tried to do that. He knows that when we have extra money that it goes towards something that we need for the kids, or we agree on something for both of us. KWIM?

Good luck!

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June 3rd, 2006, 11:25 AM
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omg..That sounds like something my dh would do... he's ADDICTED to fishing...

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June 4th, 2006, 06:29 PM
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wow, guys can be so insensitive and selfish sometimes.
if b/f did that to me, I would have kicked him than took the money

good luck and all the best <33

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June 6th, 2006, 11:40 AM
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we have that issue sometimes too. but i gave him a taste of his own medicine and he sat down and talked to me about it. not saying that is the route you should go. but i would atleast sit him down and talk to him you know? it can't hurt can it. make sure there are no distractions tho! lol!
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June 7th, 2006, 07:14 AM
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Yep, that is just being selfish. If it were me, I would be making some of his nice new stuff that he just bought disappear My DH is SO dang irresponsible with $$ that he is given money as he needs it for gas and whatever, but otherwise he doesnt even get an ATM card because he will blow our $ on stupid crap!
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June 7th, 2006, 09:24 AM
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MEN! Ya can't kill 'em and ya can't live with 'em! What's a girl to do? PLENTY!
First I'd stop washing his clothes, then I'd set the alarm clock behind 5 minutes, then I'd burn his dinner and I'd eat something really good in front of him! He might would get the hint then that he's being just a tad bit selfish!! Men are SO stupid when it comes to women!!! Hope you're doing ok, hon!! Keep us posted! ((HUGS))
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June 8th, 2006, 05:07 AM
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My DH knows better.. I really wish he would try to do something that stupid with our money.. I can tell you one thing something he "wasted" money on when it could and should have been used for something else would surely get broken "accidentally" DH asks me if we can afford things and if I say NO thats the end of it
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June 23rd, 2006, 10:26 PM
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That definately is selfish!! He should of spent at least half on you and the children, and spent either a one on one weekend with you or made it a family weekend. Sorry to hear that tho **HUGS**
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