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July 3rd, 2006, 06:29 PM
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Yesterday we were at mil's house for a early 4th of July cookout. I had my cell phone clipped to my pants but my shirt covered it up. I guess mil thought I looked pregnant. Well I know I'm a little overwieght. But I do not look pregnant in my own oppinion. Mil says am I pregnant and not telling anyone. No I'm not pregnant. I pulled up my shirt. Showed her it was only my cell phone clipped to my pants. Mil sort of looks weird at me. Are you sure. Yeah I think so. There'll be no more babies in this life time. Now at age 43 that is not a good age to be having babies. I know having a baby after 40 can pose some serious risks for the mother and unborn child. That child is also at greater risk for mental and or physical defects. So at the current I am not trying to get pregnant. But currently not using b.c. of any sort. In the same I am deemed infiertile by the doctor. As I do not ovulate or will just not get pregnant without the help of a fertility specialist. So I am not worried about babies at this time. Mil sort of had the idea in her head now is not the time for me to have anymore babies. Due to dh being disabled. He could not help me care for a baby. Well that is not for her to decide. But I already know dh could not help me care for a baby. If I was at work. Dh could not change diapers or feed bottles or even pick the baby up out of the crib etc. Nor would I want one at my age. Mil let up on the baby thing. She asked me that a few years back. I said I am not pregnant nor do I want to get pregnant.
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July 3rd, 2006, 06:47 PM
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It sounds to me like someone has "grandchild fever." It's not nice to keep hasseling you about it though.

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July 3rd, 2006, 07:15 PM
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I think your MIL was sooooo out of line to even ask. If you were pg & not telling...then wouldn't it be logical that it's not her business anyway? Also - to even ask someone if they are pg when not can be construed as an insult by many & one I wouldn' t risk. Above all it isn't her business one way or the other & if you wanted to have another baby I say go for it - if you don't - that's good too. But no one's business but your own - especially if you aren't asking for input!
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July 6th, 2006, 02:01 PM
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i have this problem with my boss. it really annoys me and also hurts my feelings. i have gained weight in the last two years while his wife really doesn't eat anything and she has anorexia. i swear he thinks it is ok and that every woman is supposed to look like that. so now he asks me all the time if i am pregnant and i just want to be like did i tell you? and when he says no i will be like then it is none of your *%&$^( business is it? lol. so i feel your pain. i am sorry it is hard for me too cuz i want a baby so when someone asks it just brings the wounds to the surface that i haven't had one yet. i hope she doesn't bother you about it again! xoxo
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July 10th, 2006, 10:29 AM
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Ugh MIL's. They need like a deserted island where we can take all the wretched MILs and keep them there. That way they can harrass each other lol. I'm really sorry to hear that she is being the way she is. My MIL accused me of drinking a beer (I had a 7-up in a koozie) in front of my fiance's entire family. I immediately pulled the can out and showed her it was 7-Up, but it was so embarrassing that she would do that in front of all those people! It really made me mad to think that she honestly thinks I would be drinking a beer while I'm pregnant. I think she just likes to be dramatic.
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