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October 1st, 2004, 07:58 AM
dejasmommy143's Avatar Super Mommy
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I dont know if it's me or not but every relationship starts to go bad about 3 years in. I just get so sick of them. Well right now Aaron and i are arguing about $$. He cannot keep a job and support us. When i was working i didnt make very much and by the time i paid for a babysitter, etc. it wasn't worth it. And he always says just stay home with deja and keep the house together. Well i do and he comes home to dinner cooked, house clean, laundry done, ect. Then he plays softball 3 nights a week, plays video games and naps all the time. I hate it. Now i am tryinjg to get a job but it is hard when you dont have a car ( he's always got it ) and no babysitter. When im not happy its not hard to tell so the other night we had a discussion on us. We agreed to give it another month then see if we can make it together or not. Sometimes i think i am better off without him. I had a credit card that he ran up and my car is about to be repoed but he thinks its no big deal there is so much i could go on about this but i wont. I am just sick of being in more and more debt. I never had this problem til we got together. I just think that if it was me and deja i could live with my dad and pay off all my debt in about a year, less mess, less stress, and i wont have to walk on egg shells. Do you know what i mean? I just dont know what to do anymore.
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October 1st, 2004, 08:38 AM
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{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} Sorry you are having hard times now. I hope things get better... .what ever you decide to do.......TAKE CARE!
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October 1st, 2004, 01:55 PM
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((((HUGS)))) My advice is to do what is best for you and Deja. Listen to your inner voice and trust your intuition. There is no reason to walk on eggshells for anyone. lol
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October 1st, 2004, 02:06 PM
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Originally posted by Shan@Oct 1 2004, 03:55 PM
((((HUGS)))) My advice is to do what is best for you and Deja. Listen to your inner voice and trust your intuition. There is no reason to walk on eggshells for anyone. lol
I agree. You need to listen to what you already know inside. You shouldn't have to deal with things you don't need to or want to. You deserve the best for yourself and your daughter. Hugs!
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October 1st, 2004, 03:05 PM
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October 1st, 2004, 05:00 PM
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Re-read your post. Nowhere did you say you loved him, or that you were sure he loved you, or that he even does anything for Deja. It doesn't seem as though you're getting much from this relationship besides debt.

Good luck with a tough choice.
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October 1st, 2004, 05:29 PM
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good point alice well he does more now than ever i think thats why its so hard right now and about the other thing, thats on and off at this time.
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October 3rd, 2004, 05:56 PM
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Listen to your gut!! Do what you have to do. The more bills that he runs up, the harder it is going to be on you in the long run, especially is your car gets repoed. Then you will have a heck of time ever getting another one. It sounds like he talked you into staying home so he could be in control of everything. Do you love him? If you think you are going to be better off without him, just go now and cut your losses before more bills get out of control and you lose your car. Dont wait until you have lost everything before you make your decision.

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