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January 23rd, 2011, 10:38 AM
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If you aboslutely LOVED where you were stationed and wanted to live there forever....BUT....had family back home that you missed (even though you HATED your hometown--the weather, the people, pretty much everything about it)....

Would you stay where you wanted (and not feel guilty)? -OR- Would you move home so you could be near your family?

(In this case, say the hubby is getting out of the military and you HAVE to choose)\

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January 23rd, 2011, 11:02 AM
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No question, stay where I was at. The reason being, even though I love my family, would I really be happy in a place I despised. No, I wouldn't. But that's just me. And, visiting is always an option. It goes both ways, you visit them, they visit you, and it's like a mini vacation for everybody! We already know where we are moving back to once he retires. lol
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January 23rd, 2011, 11:34 AM
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I would stay where MY family is happiest (My Children and Husband). I love my extended family but I care more about the happiness of my household more than anything else. We however know where we are moving when Dh retires and it does happen to be his home state.
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January 23rd, 2011, 11:58 AM
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I would live where we are happiest. We live in hubby's home state and go visit my family when we can.

@bubsmommy, I wish it were that my family comes up here and visit and we go down there and visit. but so far my family has only come up here when I got married hubby and I have to make the effort to go visit them all the time and after a few years it gets tiring.

but i wouldn't change where I live for anything. I think the green pacific nw is beautiful
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January 23rd, 2011, 12:07 PM
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I would live where we are happiest. We live in hubby's home state and go visit my family when we can.

@bubsmommy, I wish it were that my family comes up here and visit and we go down there and visit. but so far my family has only come up here when I got married hubby and I have to make the effort to go visit them all the time and after a few years it gets tiring.

but i wouldn't change where I live for anything. I think the green pacific nw is beautiful
My family or in laws don't visit either. We've lived in Shreveport for 3 years and my parent visited twice [when dakota was born and a x-mas] and my in laws has visited once [when dakota was born]. We hate that they dont visit. They call us to say they miss Dakota and want to know when we are coming home, but never come here.
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January 23rd, 2011, 01:44 PM
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In the almost 7 years that Matt and I have been married, I can count on one hand the amount of times that my family has visited us. Heck, at Campbell we were only two hours away and they never made the effort, it was always us doing the going, and they wanted us there all. the. time. Due to alot of other stuff that was going on though, I decided that if they wanted to see us they could come to us. I was not going back down there. It's been 3 years since I last visited them. Oh they try to pull guilt trips (oh I have to work, it's too long of a drive, blahblahblah. Apparently they think it's just uber easy for Matt to get passes and take leave and that it's not just as long of a drive for us. With this unit, the passes and leave aren't that easy to get) and all that good stuff, but shut it real quick when I ask is something wrong with their vehicle that it stops at the state line. There are some members of my family that have never laid eyes on Gabe, and I'm ok with that. Dh's family on the other hand, they don't think it's fair to make us do all of the traveling. His parents come up here just as much as we go down there. I think we are very lucky in that aspect. His parents say that they know it's harder on us to travel because of Gabe and all of the stuff we have to bring, whereas they can just throw stuff in bags and come on.

In the end though, it's all about what makes your family (you, dh, kids) happy, not what the extended family wants.
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