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February 8th, 2007, 10:53 AM
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Hi, I'm Trish. I have only posted here a couple of times. I have a special needs child and am more active over there, but I just had to come and vent here with those of you who would GET this! I am married to a man in the Navy who is about to retired. We've been through many deployments, the 90's war, the 2000 war, a birth without him, a sick and hospitalized child without him, just like most of you guys, just like all of other military wives. We go through hell and back and we support our husband so that they can support the country. ANYWAY...
I have a sister who has been 'the troubled one'. In and out of rehab, two sons out of wedlock, doesn't know who may be the dad of second son, exotic dancing, drugs, hep. C, drug driving with jail time, is now 35 and has never held down a job for longer than a year. You get the picture. She dropped out of high school in ninth grade.
Anyway, she has lived in a house that my dad owns for the last seven years since she had her first son, because my dad couldn't stand the idea of his grandson not having a stable place to call home. Of course she's never been consistent with paying any sort of rent or what-have-you.
My dad is retired, on a fixed income and just found out he has prostate cancer.
And he said the stress of supporting my sister and her lifestyle is killing him, literally. So I told him he has to stop. I told him to put the house on the market. If she wants to buy it, she can. if she can't because she has bad credit, she can get lowincome housing and straighten her life out for a change.
So he did it. Good for him.
And she is PISSED at ME.
And called me on it.
So we had it out on the phone and that ****** had the nerve to tell me that I AM NO BETTER BECAUSE I HAVE LIVED OFF OF MY HUSBAND FOR THE LAST TWENTY YEARS! She said I have had it easy living off of him in this lifestyle and I have no room to talk.

On one hand, I just consider the source and how ridiculous it is and it's just ..... I'm speechless....whatever.
On the other hand I'm furious that she would compare the way SHE has ived and taken advantage to what I've SACRIFICED!!

Gawd!! I was so ANGRY about that. deeeeeeep breath. Thanks for letting me vent, LOL!
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February 8th, 2007, 11:41 AM
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Wow... I wouldnt let it get too much to you.. althought how cant you?! but keep thinking atleast you have the better life. She is a loser lowlife (sorry). I'm glad your dad did that.. MAYBE she will grow up now. Hang in there!

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February 8th, 2007, 12:28 PM
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Search sucks to hear that she thinks that because you have lived a modest life the last 20 years, that you are lower than her.
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February 8th, 2007, 02:19 PM
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There is a difference between mooching because you're irresponsible and being a military dependent.

I know it's hard, but, try to ignore it.
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February 8th, 2007, 02:29 PM
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Seriously, that was wrong of her. But I think you did the right thing, and your dad did the right thing too. My brother did something very similar to my parents until they just couldn't support him anymore. Under my advice they stopped sending him money and he got his life straightened out on his own.

I'm proud of you for the advice you gave to your dad. It takes a lot of courage to stand up to your enemies, but it takes even more to stand up to those you love. I understand why your angry, but try to let it roll off your back. Take confidence in knowing that what you did was right, because that's something she needs to deal with. Her anger only stems from the fact that she can't have the "easy way out" anymore.

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February 8th, 2007, 03:48 PM
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you know, no one knows what a military wife goes through except for antoher military wife [or husband.. don't want to exclude them!]

she has no idea what YOU'VE been through. she's just seen that you've taken care of things and have done it on ur own [with ur husband of course]. by that comment i can see that she's 1. jealous of ur life 2. angry that you seem to have everything together and 3. irate that she has to actually WORK now.

let it go, it's the best for her. and who knows. she may come back and thank you in a few years.
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February 8th, 2007, 05:59 PM
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She's surely talkin outta her ##### and I would just grin and think to myself..thats the true ramblings of a IDIOT.
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