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October 3rd, 2009, 08:16 AM
ElizabethS's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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I've been on this board off and on but just thought I would re-introduce myself. My name is Elizabeth and I'm 24. I am married to my DH, Chris, who is 26. I have 2 bio children, Alex (almost 4) and Cadence (18mos). I also have two DS children, Reid (turned 3 today) and Isaiah (10 mos). Both are with their bio mom's, but come to our house every other weekend. I separated from my bio children's father in May (he was an abusive alcoholic), and since then he hasn't seen the children, or even inquired about them. We were trying to get an adoption through but my ex after agreeing to it put a quick stop to it. I'm in the middle of not knowing what kind of custody situation we will have but I will do anything to protect my children. I love having my blended family and we plan on having another baby together in the next couple of years.

Momma to Alex (2005), Cadence, (2008), Ethan (2010), Brayden (2012), and Adrianna Elise due September 19th 2014

Stepmom to two (2006, and 2009).

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October 3rd, 2009, 11:17 AM
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congrats & welcome... i'm tami 37.. wife to ( not so dear ) Glenn 35.. i have a 15 yr old daughter.. he has a 5 yr old spoiled ( ungodly ) daughter.. we have a almost 4 month old daughter...

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October 3rd, 2009, 12:43 PM
Daisyfields's Avatar Platinum Super Mega Mommy
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Welcome back Elizabeth. I am Chantelle, one of the co-hosts here on BF's, I have 4 kids between me & my DH, almost 9, almost 12, 3 (special needs) & almost (22 mos.) 2, all boys. The 12 year old is my DSS (DH's DS from his previous marriage), we are "suppose" to have him every other weekend but we're lucky if we see him once a month. DH does see his DS during the week @ MIL's house (for geographical reasons). I had my almost 9 year old, w/ an ex, who is now married & have twins that are 7 mos. (boy & girl), together DH & I had two more children, both boys, 3 & almost 2. I'm slightly outnumbered.

I've been to court for CS w/ my ex, there is no visitation order in place but visitation isn't an issue so we didn't go over that, just CS payments. My DH has been to court several times w/ his ex for CS increases, which she got right before our first baby was born in 06'...it's not garnished from his wages, he has agreed to pay her on his own & she's been fine w/ that. I am both a bio-mom w/ an ex & a step-mom w/ an ex-wife, I have bio-kids at the home & a very much blended family. I think I've seen just about all that you can get thrown at you.

I'm sorry to hear that your ex was abusive, that's got to be hard on you & the children. Has your ex gone to A.A. meetings? Has the courts made him do anything for his addiction problems? Sounds like he doesn't have a clear mind & that's why he is one minute wanting to give up his rights & the next not. What I don't get is that lack of CS that you don't get. Have you filed w/ your state to get that for your children? If you haven't, I am not sure which state you are in, what the laws are but where I live, you don't need a lawyer or money to get a CS order pending, unless you want other issues visited aside from CS itself.

You sound pretty strong for what you have had to deal w/, how are your kids doing w/ their father not being in the picture that much? Do they want to be adopted by your DH? I know there are some gals on the board that have gone through this & successfully had their DH's adopt their children from previous relationships/marriages. I'm sure they'd be willing to talk to you & help you in that area. I haven't had to deal w/ potential adoption issues so that's something I am not privey to knowing about.

Sounds like you have a great DH on your hands, he is helping w/ the kids, and you guys have a great bond w/ everyone. How are his kids when they visit w/ you? Do they mesh well w/ your bio-kids?

Feel free to jump right in w/ posting. And if you need anything, I am here, you can PM me too, which ever you feel more comfy w/ of course.

The ladies here are great, we tell it like it is & we're honest b/c we try to help which is great. This board isn't as fast as the others, I think partially b/c the ladies here are dealing w/ difficult things. But we enjoy fluff posts too, something to take the edges off.

Glad to have you join us.



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October 8th, 2009, 11:46 AM
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Welcome. I have 3 children. Sadie is 10, Lilly is 8 and Gabriel is 4. DH is Kal and we have been married for almost 9 years.

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