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July 19th, 2010, 12:49 PM
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My daughter is gone to be with her dad for the week... I miss her so much, its so hard for me not to cry every day.

SHe only sees him maybe twice a year because he is living in Kosovo working a civilian contractor position. His new wife and child live here close to us..

She LOVES going to see him so I try to hide my sadness from her, I dont want her ever to be torn about going or feel I dont want her to go, but inside I worry so much..
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July 19th, 2010, 01:16 PM
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And that's a natural feeling. But good for you for not showing her that it makes you sad. To me it takes a real parent to do that, and for that I commend you. Good for you for making sure that your daughter has a relationship with her father.

I wish there were more moms like you.

She will be home before you know it and life will be good. Stay strong for her and you, she will be home in no time

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July 21st, 2010, 11:32 AM
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It's always hard to "share" the kids, especially when they're young. The best thing you can do is allow those visits & never say "I'll miss you" or "mommy will be so sad while you're gone"...etc., just leave it at "have fun, see you soon, love you!" and not make it a big deal, this way, transition is easy. And although on the inside you are crying (I get that 110%) you are showing her how she needs both parents in her life. The guilt trip is horrible to make a child feel & I've seen it first hand w/ my DSS & his mother, how she makes it all about her & as a result, we barely see my DSS, so sad.

Hang in there.

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July 21st, 2010, 12:12 PM
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You're an awesome mom! I know it isn't easy but you are doing the right thing.

Can you treat yourself this week? Maybe do a girl's night out with some friends or rent a movie you've been wanting to see. Find some fun things to keep you busy and it will help pass the time.


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