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March 2nd, 2011, 12:27 PM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: Maryland
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My older girls live with their BM during the week for most of the school year. Their BM lives in a house with her mom, dad, nephew, our 2 girls, her son, and her boy friend. BMs mother is not a very nice person especially to our 2 girls bc she hated their birthfather, so she always treats them like they are the worst kids in the world. I feel so bad for them. Every time I go up there to visit them or to drop them off. I always have to tell them just hang in there for (how ever many days till next visit) and you will be back here again.

Dont get me wrong BM is a great mom and she doesn't like the way her mother treats them either, but they are stuck in that house until she can finish her CNAs and gets a good job or until I can afford a bigger house so all of them can move in.

She is just so awful. My oldest is very sensitive. Every time she crys about something, it doesn't matter what it is, BMs mom yells at her and makes her write "I will not cry like a baby" 200 times. She is 9 years old. Even if she did do something wrong (which i dont consider cry wrong!) I wouldnt make her write that much. She is always yelling at them, and they dont even have to be doing any thing wrong. If anything goes wrong in that house they get blamed for it. Even if she finds out it wasn't their fought she still keeps yelling at them, she just finds something else to yell about.

I don't know how to deal with her. If I say anything, she wont let me go up to the house any more to see them or to pick them up. And nothing would change. If BM says anything she will get kicked out. I don't know what to do. The girls are starting to act out and I know she is the reason. Any advice would be great right now!
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March 3rd, 2011, 09:55 AM
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Could you talk to BM and have the girls spend more time with you till you all are able to work out better living arrangements?

I can't imagine how they must feel. She sounds like an awful woman! ((hugs))
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March 3rd, 2011, 11:36 AM
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Personally I'd squish everyone into my tiny living space. It's got to be better than these poor girls getting abused.

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March 3rd, 2011, 03:11 PM
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I would have to intervene. I agree with Kris I would squeeze everyone in to help them.
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