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March 8th, 2011, 10:17 AM
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So my DSD's brought home there report cards yesterday. Kira the 10 year old did very well. She's averaging B's and C's.
Destiny the older one however who is in grade 8... She is failing Math and Science. BAD!!! 43% on Math and 41% in Science
She's saying that she does her homework and pays attention on class but clearly her grades are not reflecting this. She says it's because she fails all of her exams because she just can't remember..

She's doing quite well in all the other subjects, but these two are not good at all. This is the second report card that she has failed both subjects.

She says her step dad sits and does review with her.. but she obviously needs more help!

Something that I came up with to try and motivate her was to offer her $10 for every percentage increase.. is that too high? Should we go $5 instead? Has anyone used this tactic before? Did it work?
I remember when I was in elementary and jr high my parents would always offer us a reward for the end of the year if our report cards were satisfactory. One time it was a new bike, one time it was a shopping spree. I can really appreciate that now because we had no money back then but they still made that promise to us and it motivated me to do better. (I was always failing math, social)

We don't want to make it a negative thing (by taking away priviledges) but we also don't want to give her even more (more time on the computer, more time on her phone)

I know that the EX won't offer anything like this and I guess she can't afford a tutor.. we can't either but we would make it happen if it meant that she could actually start doing good and "get it"

What are your suggestions? Thanks for reading!
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March 8th, 2011, 10:42 AM
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First of all, talk to the school. They may have more insight as to what she's missing and how her grades are so low. We had a similar problem at school with Will and it turned out that he was doing his homework, but was forgetting to take it to class and turn it in. They made accommodations for him to be able to go to each teacher during home room to turn in his homework in the morning.

Also if she's really having issues with exams, perhaps they'll let her do exam corrections so that she can bring her grade up. I wouldn't start with the rewards until you know what exactly is behind the failing grades. If she's not turning in work, that needs to be addressed first.
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March 8th, 2011, 01:07 PM
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I would talk to her teacher/teachers to see if they have any more insight. I don't see anything wrong with offering an incentive.
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March 8th, 2011, 03:03 PM
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I would talk to the teacher first. See if she can do extra credit. Also find out if it's something that is going on in class that she needs to work on.
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March 8th, 2011, 06:41 PM
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I agree talk to the teacher first. There could be something else going on. Maybe she's just a bad test taker. Also the teacher could help come up with good incentive ideas. I don't know if I would do money, but I would find something else that might work.

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