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March 21st, 2011, 05:19 PM
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Did/does anyone feel like their so's mother is in a sense competing (for lack of a better word) with you for the attention of the kids?

At first it wasn't so horrible but lately she's been all over my case about everything..everything I do is wrong in her eyes..she's in constant competition over buying the kids stuff they need...which never happens on her end..she doesn't spend a dime..we do it all..and yet when she does buy something whether it's food for her house or takes them to lunch all she does is complain about it. For example..a couple weeks ago the kids mom told me she's working on potty training Cam (2year old) and telling me all about it. So I went and bought a really cool potty chair..it's disney's cars (he loves that movie) wasn't expensive..came with everything we need..heck even talks. Ok so hubby loved it and told his mom about it right in front of the kids and she totally went off "well i see who the favorite is with her..corb we will go shopping sometime and I will get my #1 whatever he wants". And lately they stay at her house when it's our weekend cuz that's what she wants so if I want to see them I have to go over there and when i am there it's like I might not as well be..i'm a ghost to the kids and her. She doesn't take them to do anything like play in the park...all they do is stay inside at her apartment in their pj's all day and play and eat. When I bring it up (carefully) to hubby all he says is "i know" or sometimes he won't say anything at all. He's very very close to his mother (mine lives out of state so it's hard for me not to have my mom here and I do keep that in mind when I bring things up). Im not sure what I can do differently...I know she is grandma and im just step mom and im not saying i want to keep the kids from her I want her to lighten up and let me be there too..talking to her is out of the question..she's always right..never wrong..

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March 21st, 2011, 05:40 PM
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She sounds like she has issues.

My MIL is bat crap crazy. No lie. She doesn't even remember the boys' birthdays, so yeah. We cut off contact with her about a year ago.

My step-MIL is great though.
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March 21st, 2011, 06:35 PM
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No neither of my kids grandparents really care about them at all

My 2 miracles: Lucinda & Noah
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March 21st, 2011, 10:32 PM
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My MIL... I adore her... but I have certain reasons for it.

My step MIL... I hate her. She's not allowed around my son. Ever. Even if my husband and his father start talking about. Nor will my son call her "grandma."
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April 2nd, 2011, 03:54 PM
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ugh she did it again today...i only had to work a half a day..got off at one which was prefect cuz bri and the boys could spend the morning with her while i was at work and then we had plans to go swimming this afternoon and be at home just us this evening and then tomorrow we are to have a special day at the park with a train ride and carousel and such...she made plans this afternoon and when he told me they'd be later than we had planned i said..its my turn..im part of this family too..hes just so afraid to stand up to her...if she doesn't hear from him every day she flips s**t...i can't win

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April 2nd, 2011, 05:30 PM
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My MIL is off her freaking rocker but she does love her grandkids. She's not allowed to have them overnight as per all of our wishes. We don't trust her and how she disciplines the kids so we would rather she not be alone with them over night. She knows better than to say anything to me about the kids. I've set her straight in the past. It's taken years but we've finally come to an understanding. Hope it gets better as time goes by.

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April 3rd, 2011, 08:22 AM
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I wish that were the case. Brian apologized all the rest of the night last night, I had left home because I was tired of being home alone....i hate being alone anymore..i know i should take the alone time while I can.he also told me once they came to where I had left to that Camden (our 2 year old) had ran smack into a table twice at McDonalds and they were concerned about a concussion so that's another reason they took their time leaving after his nap..he didn't tell me at the time because he didn't want to worry me....umm...I'm a mommy too...that's my job is to worry..but I have most of the day with them today so that's good!

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April 3rd, 2011, 02:35 PM
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These stories make me feel sad you have to go through this I am not married, but my boyfriends mother is AWESOME to Lily. We have never, ever disagreed. His family is pretty much the model family to be future in-laws, because we all get along perfectly and they accept my daughter as good as blood.

However, I am glad I never married Lily's father. His family (with the exception of his siblings and grandfather) were hell-spawns. They were awesome at first, but once the oh-so-wonderful-biological father of Lily's decided to become a ****head, they bought into his act. Told me that he didn't ask to be a Dad, therefore he didnt need to help me. Said "he has a life to pay for too" as an excuse not to pay child support. Said Lily wasn't his. His mother said I was too hard on him for flipping out when he got drunk and couldn't take care of Lily while I was at school (at 11 ****** AM!) so my Mom, newly out of major surgery, had to take care of her until I got home.

So yeah. Good riddance to that family, I am SO GLAD I don't deal with any of them anymore!
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