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April 6th, 2011, 08:19 PM
Join Date: Oct 2010
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Hello ladies!

My boyfriend and I have had a whirlwind romance, and I've been told (and have received numerous hints) that and engagement is soon approaching. I'm very excited because I truly believe he is my soulmate.

Anyway, I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he has a son. The kids get along wonderfully. I love how his son really looks after my daughter, just like a big brother would. I am concerned, however, about what will happen when the two families come together. Keeping it simple, my boyfriend's ex hasn't been around for like a year, so his son hasn't had a mother during that time. From what I've learned about his son is that he really misses that mother figure in his life. He became attached to me the first day we all spent together, and hasn't let go. I love him very much and I'm sure he love me. But I'm afraid of what would happen when his mother comes back into his life. My boyfriend has full custody, but I'm sure his son will want to see his mother after being away from her for so long. And I don't know her, so I don't know how she would react to me.

I guess this is something that I have to accept in order to be with my boyfriend. I'm just hoping that there isn't too much drama surrounding the mix of our families down the line.

So anyway, that is my intro!
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April 7th, 2011, 10:55 AM
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Welcome to the board!

It's always a little bit of an adjustment when families blend, but it can be done and work out wonderfully, if everyone keeps the focus on the children and lets the past be the past. Sounds like mom doesn't want a relationship with her kid anyway, so I would worry about it unless she pops back up.
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April 7th, 2011, 11:46 AM
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Welcome to the board.

I guess this is something that I have to accept in order to be with my boyfriend. I'm just hoping that there isn't too much drama surrounding the mix of our families down the line.
Your own words say it best. This is just something that you will have to accept if you want to be with this man and vice versa for him. Hopefully the drama will be minimal. I'm fond of expecting the worst and hoping for the best in a blended family situation.

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April 7th, 2011, 01:55 PM
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Hi I'm Ashley! Welcome!!!!
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April 8th, 2011, 03:25 PM
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I can see why you are concerned but honestly I don't see why he can't have a relationship with both of you - should bio mom come around. And don't worry about how she will react to you - quite frankly it's none of her business.

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