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April 14th, 2011, 12:01 PM
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I feel so bad for my dh. I think he's pretty much completely lost his oldest. She's 16 & a real piece of work - much like her mother.

Anyway, they live 4 hours from us. The distance has always been an issue for her even though it was bio mom that moved away not us. We live 20 minutes from where they lived when dh was married to bio mom. But it's always been dh's fault that he can't get to all her events. He hates that btw but 4 hours is a long way.

Anyway, they used to set up him for failure when events were happening. Like tell him on Thursday that the dance recital was Saturday (yup 2 days later). Dh works 1 weekend a month both days. It always seemed that things fell on those weekends. If he knew ahead of time, he could switch with another manger but that can't be done at the last minute unless it's an emergency.

Well, this time his dd didn't bother to tell him when her school play was. She & bio mom like to be the victims even when they're not. So it came & went & dh had no idea.

Now she's not talking to him again. It's all his fault, blah, blah, blah.

It makes me so mad. But I know it hurts him terribly.

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April 14th, 2011, 02:56 PM
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That is awful! Are these school related activities mostly or extra curricular? If it's school related, would he be able to get a calendar of events from the school monthly so that even if they don't tell him, he has some idea of what's going on?

I'm sorry they blame him for everything. Sometimes you just can't win with people.
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April 14th, 2011, 03:13 PM
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That is horrible. I feel sorry for him. I can't imagine how hurt he feels.
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April 14th, 2011, 05:22 PM
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Oh man that sucks. I'm sorry. It really aggravates me when they pull the victim crap. Like we choose to move so far away. It was their choice, not ours so don't punish the dads for something they had no control over.

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