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April 18th, 2011, 03:27 PM
Super Mommy
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Appleton WI
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Hello- I'm new to this board but I've been a lurker for awhile. My husband and I have been married for a little over 2 years and have an almost 4 year old daughter. He has 2 boys from a previous marriage. Him and his ex have been divorced for 6 years now. The boys are 6 and 10. His ex is crazy. The strangest thing is is that she has been awful for the entire 6 years! We cannot get rid of her!

My DH and her share 50/50. When she left him, she moved 20 miles away and went from living with DH and moved right in with her boyfriend (which is also her almost now ex husband). The boys didn't care for him, but the boys have also learned how to manipulate the system to whichever parent will spoil them more (super irritating when you're the sometimes "evil" stepmom). Now, she's met another new guy (she's dated him 2 whole months) and now she's moving 60 miles away in with him. The boys are forever being dragged into this revolving door of men. She is always taking us to court for full custody. During mediation last summer she made up all sorts of lies and made my dh look terrible to the mediators. She was basically forcing DH into taking them every other weekend and the mediators agreed since he worked full time. He was being punished for working- crazy. Outside the courthouse she happened to blurt out to dh that she wanted more money from him (which we knew is what she was after all along).

The thing that is so irritating is the fact that after 6 years of being divorced she still fights about EVERYTHING. Today, she's fighting DH for who has the kids for Easter. They share every holiday and now she's saying he can't have them. She nickel and dimes him for everything. Her and her soon to be ex-husband recently filed bankruptcy and are losing their home. She spends WAY beyond her means and then sends dh the bill for 1/2. She takes the boys to all these doctors and then blames my dh for not coming with, yet he had never been told they were even going to the dr. It's the whole "deadbeat dad" routine. It's hard for us to deal and has put a lot of strain on our marriage. DH is a great dad and I think their oldest son is starting to realize his mom cares a lot more about her new boyfriend than him. It's sad.

If you've stuck along this long- bless you! I just wanted to say that it's great to know that I'm not alone!
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April 18th, 2011, 04:43 PM
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You're definitely not alone! Welcome to the board; we're glad to have you!

I'm Rachel, mom to Sarah (22), James (19), Daniel (5) and another baby boy on the way. I'm also custodial step-mom to William (12) and Clayton (10). Sarah & James are from my first marriage and Daniel and our new baby are our together. Will & Clayton have been living with us full time for about 2 years now. It's been difficult, but I think we're almost over all the hiccups of the transition. Neely's ex is a little bit crazy too, so I'm certainly familiar with that.
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April 18th, 2011, 05:51 PM
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Not alone at all and I so get what you're dealing with. Welcome.

❤ Big Thanks to Vicki, trishosaurus, & Shortcake for the great siggies of my kids! ❤
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April 18th, 2011, 06:22 PM
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Most definitely not alone. I completely understand.
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