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August 12th, 2011, 08:36 AM
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SO and I have been arguing like crazy.. His kiddos went back last weekend, funny now hes all about me finding a job.. didnt care when I was here home watching his kids.. Well we still have 3 here, and I would have to make about 40+K to afford daycare for our 3 children. ( I useId to have an inhome daycare).. Anyhow, I just had a baby, spent 8 weeks watching all 6 children.. and I signed up for 2 classes this semester, at night time..

I am back working weekends and some evenings for a sports photography company and that makes pretty good money, I am also launching my own photography company and I am busting my tail.. and he has the nerve to say "would be nice if you could bring in some money to help with bills".. help with bills???? ummmm our mortgage is 2 months behind because I HAD to stay off work to watch children and I couldnt keep my daycare open with that many kiddos here..

I think staying home, I put an ad out to take on one or two children during the day, going to school, working weekends and running my own business is enough.. and he told me get a job on the nights you dont go to school... FUMING!

Funny he didnt say this when he needed me for childcare for his other 3.. I have got to go to school to get some type of education so I can provide for this family!!

Oh and his excuse to not really want to go to school.... "If I make more money, my ex will get more child support"... oh nice! So let our family suffer... I am so freakin mad right now.. and just plain exhausted..

rant over...
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August 12th, 2011, 09:32 AM
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Ughh I'm sorry. I've been told crap like that in the past. I love it how our staying home is great with it benefits them directly but the moment they no longer need us to watch their kid(s) we need to rush back to work.

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August 12th, 2011, 04:50 PM
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Ya I cab totally understand that. I hate that he's made you feel that way. That's no fun.
I've had my share of aggravation lately w dh. I'm so ticked about it that I can't even bring myself to write about it right now.
I hope things get better for u.

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August 13th, 2011, 10:28 AM
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I am sorry you are going thru this. You are doing things to better yourself and you keep doing that. Things will hopefully fall into place.
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August 13th, 2011, 01:48 PM
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Thanks guys.. I just want to get a better education so I can offer more to my family.. thats all I want, to feel secure and happy..
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August 15th, 2011, 12:35 PM
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It sounds like you have a great plan for the future while taking care of all the current needs. I wish you dh would see that & be more supportive.

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August 15th, 2011, 03:51 PM
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Sorry you're going through that. That is super crappy of your DH! You're working your butt off taking care of kids and going to school to better yourself and also trying to start up this business and could potentially bring in a lot more money. If you go out and get a job, then you'll be even more tired and won't have time or the umph to take care of kids and work on the photography business, therefore your business may never get off the ground.
I hope you can talk with him and get him to understand that getting a job will do more hurt than help. Good luck!

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