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April 12th, 2005, 02:27 PM
docsmomma's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Ok, my son told his dad that I was pregnant ("mommy have baby in tummy!")

I hadn't said anything because I didn't feel it was time to say anything. he could find out when everyone else did (2 weeks from now).

Well, now he's decided to go for custody.

For some quick background, I have had sole custody of my son from the get-go because of this guys "beliefs" on how to handle his anger. He gets standard visitation and I've been really good about making sure it happens. I also let my son go to his cousins birthday parties and other activities because I know how important that can be.

The day he found out, he told someone I know (he doesn't know we go to the same church) that he was going for custody because if "she thinks she's keeping my son when she's going to have another kid, she's crazy!"

I'm really worried because I've done everything I can to keep things peaceful for my son's sake.
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April 12th, 2005, 03:09 PM
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sorry to hear that you have to go through that. but you do have sole custody and just because you have another child i don't think that they will take your son away from you, or do anything like that. especially if he has problems with his anger. my sister went through something similar with her son... he's dad used to push her down the stairs when she was pregnant with him... she tries even now to get a long with him even though he's put her through so much and even his girlfriends have gone up to her and said that they were going to be her son's moms from now on (yeah she didn't take that too well either). the best thing that you can do is keep thing scivil no matter how hard it can be some times... your son will not only see it but feel it and since you are pregnant trying to stay relaxed is best for you too.
so let him say what he wants, it's not like you are planning on abandoning your son because you are having another baby. besides right now it's just talk... stay strong i hope it all works out for you.
sorry i couldn't be of any help to you
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April 14th, 2005, 10:34 PM
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I am sorry to hear what you are going through. Unfortunatley I dont have alot of advice from you, as I am expecting a very negative reaction from my ex when my new SO and I do concieve. About all I can say, is (try) not to stress about it too much, as it sounds like he doesnt have much of a leg to stand on. Feel free to PM me anytime, or if you have msn messenger, i am [email protected] ((((HUGS))))
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