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July 27th, 2012, 12:10 AM
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Eric and I went to walmart with my sister in law last night. I stocked up the cart with school supplies for O. We headed back to check an aisle for something and misplaced Eric. (I say misplaced because we can usually find him near the big screen TVs.)

I come around a corner and see him talking to a woman and a kid. And then I look closer. He was talking to O and his mom!

A lot of feelings rushed though me at that point. I was so excited to see him, but nervous because I didn't want to step on her toes during her week. But then I said screw it and yelled his name and he ran over and gave me a hug. I said "Eric where did you find this one?!" And O's mom said, "O actually spotted him and ran over and practically attacked him!" We chatted for maybe 2 minutes, I asked him if he wanted blue or red scissors for school, (His mom and I split the supply list down the middle so I wasn't just buying everything, just our share,) and gave him another hug and went on our way.

And it was weird. It's weird to see the child you spend every other week with, walk away with someone else. It's weird for Eric to run into his 7 year old at the grocery store. I was glad I got to see him, and I was glad he was happy to see me. But it's just weird to have happen, ya know?

Anything weird like that ever happen to any of you?
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July 27th, 2012, 06:32 AM
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It is kind of strange to go opposite ways. We've never bumped into bm unexpectedly, but my mil did cross paths with bm's mother (who is so nutso that she makes bm look relatively sane, for a reference point) and father one afternoon when she took the girls to the mall with her. It was one of our weekends but she had errands to run and the girls wanted to go along. They were in the food court and mil was watching the girls, and she saw my 5 yo dsd being picked up by a man and instinctively stood up and started over there, ready to raise some hell - and then she realized it was their other Grandpa.

She kept her distance (on account of the crazy - they hate my dh's family as much as they hate dh and myself, and they aren't afraid to cause a scene in front of other people including the kids) but smiled and waved politely. They gave a half-assed wave back and then turned back to the girls, talked for a couple of minutes and then were on their way.

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July 27th, 2012, 06:34 AM
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July 27th, 2012, 07:56 AM
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We never get to see the kids on weekends BM has them. She never takes them anywhere but her moms house which is 2 minutes from hers. We never even get to talk to them because he phone is always "dead" on her weekends
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July 27th, 2012, 10:08 AM
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Before she moved across town it was a weekly thing for us. Once or twice we swapped the munchkin in the store cause he wanted to come to our house. Its easy on us adults to see him and walk away empty handed..but it is hard for Reme. He loves his mom but he knows his time with dad is always limited. He is loving the 50/50 split but we have tears each Sunday cause he wants to stay.
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July 27th, 2012, 10:39 AM
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Originally Posted by loveneverfails View Post
That's happened to us quite a few times. Once when it was our time and we were eating out. BM walked in and saw SS and took him over to her table for like 20 minutes. :/ We ended up being late to an event we were going to because of it but then later it happened again on her time. We ran into them at a local amusement park. SS begged to ride a ride with us and she ended up allowing it. We actually all stood in line together for 45 minutes.

I run into her often at work since SS goes to the school I work at. Most of the time shes late bringing him in or picking him up early for no reason at all. She hates it when I see her doing something she knows she shouldn't be doing.
Let's leave the fact that it's absurd she would do that in the first place. WHY would she do it when you WORK there??!?!

Originally Posted by lilymagic View Post
It actually happened to my mom once with the girls. They were out at the mall with BM, and my mom comes along them sitting in the food court waiting for their mom to come join them and she stops and asks them where I am. When they said they didn't know, she kind of freaked out. Then BM walks up to the table, my mom had never met her, and my mom started asking who she was why she was talking to these girls. Of course BM freaks out on my mom as well because as far as they're both concered a stranger is talking to "their" girls. And those girls? Those wonderful girls of mine? They laughed. They didn't saying anything! They thought it was the funniest thing ever! Mall security got involved and eventually it all got sorted out.

And one day DH was working a saturday and ran out to a resturant near his work for lunch, which is where BD and DD were at for their saturday together! DD was just happy she got to have lunch with Daddy and Papa. And waitresses thought they made the sweest same-sex couple she ever seen. I still tease them about that.
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July 27th, 2012, 12:01 PM
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Fortunately no, that's never happened. I'm glad you all handled it well, though and O was happy to see you both!

Only good can come for O when his parents (you, Eric and her) can be friendly and work together!
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July 27th, 2012, 12:12 PM
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Nope never run into dh's ex. Thankfully she lives in another state.

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July 27th, 2012, 04:05 PM
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Never happened before. I can see how it would be awkward though. I'm kind of glad BM moved out of state for this reason. In some ways it's easier to deal with her when I don't have to see her. I would feel so uncomfortable seeing DH and her talking :/ I'm such a hypocrite.
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July 27th, 2012, 04:05 PM
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Even though BM lives in the same state, we're not close enough to just run into each other like that. I'm thankful for that one.

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July 27th, 2012, 04:36 PM
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I'm glad it went well.!

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July 27th, 2012, 06:38 PM
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July 27th, 2012, 08:38 PM
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Great stories everyone! It was the first time it happened to us.

Well actually no. When I worked at the animal hospital, O was with his grandparents one day, (It was actually when he was staying with them when BM was in rehab before we knew.) Gpa took him grocery shopping in the same complex where I worked and he asked his Gpa if they could visit me. Imagine my surprise when I see his little face smooshed against the window making sure I was there! It was super cute. But def awkward for gpa since nobody had yet told us where BM was! I thought it was very kind of him to do. His grandparents have always encouraged O's relationship with me. They even told me when BM was in rehab they were so glad he had a female in his life with such love for him.

I'm trying really hard these days to JUST focus on the positive. It was super sad to see O walk away with his mom, (He was happy to see us but didnt ask to come with us or anything, not that I expected him to,) hand in hand, but when he looked back and waved at us and said "See you guys on Sunday!" It made me smile. I love that little boy.
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July 28th, 2012, 08:15 AM
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It's not awkaward when I run into my ex when he has S. We sometimes do it on purpose to surprise S!

Now P's ex it is awkward sometimes. The last time we did we were in a bar and I was a little drunk and so was my friend. His ex decided she had to plant herself right next to our group and she told K we were totally trashed. I was,but P was not! She wanted to stir up stuff!
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August 1st, 2012, 05:55 AM
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we run in to C's grandparents all the time. they usually call BM and tell her we are doing something unsafe and how BF should never be able to see C. I wish we hadnt moved so close to all of them
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August 5th, 2012, 10:03 PM
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I never ran into hubby's ex. But she did move near us for a short time and one day she followed my stepdaughter home from school. She happened to be driving near the school on her way to a store. She saw stepdaughter walking home (she lives with us) and she followed her. She said she tried calling her cell but stepdaughter didn't answer (because stepdaughter never turned her phone back on after school). So she drove to our house to say hi.

In reality I think what happened was stepdaughter saw her drive past her. BM realized stepdaughter saw her and she called out of guilt. When stepdaughter didn't answer her cell she probably thought she was mad at her and not answering on purpose(because she hadn't contacted her in months by that time) so she came to our house to try to smooth things over.

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