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August 20th, 2012, 07:37 AM
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i just dont know anymore...i said in my last post, I dont know why I bother, the boys BM txt me last week and asked if she could come visit on the long weekend. I told her sorry but we will be away. But she could come up the weekend of the 24th and visit.
She said she would but its not payday weekend, she was txting me on payday...how hard is it to save $40 to come see your kids?
This is the zillionth time ive offered for her to see the boys she misses sooo much, and the zillionth time she has used an excuse. BUT she can travel 2hrs past our house EVERY weekend to see her other son. It makes me sooo mad. That and the only time she asks to see the boys is whenever her older sons stepmom makes a big deal out of her always seeing him and never seeing these two. She hasnt seen them since March, and they have both had a birthday since she has been here. No call, no cards and no presents.
I have the right mind to take her back to court and get visitation taken away, but that is hard to do unless she is a danger to them.

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August 20th, 2012, 09:06 AM
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August 20th, 2012, 12:54 PM
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Sad! We go through this with my step kids mom too. She moves constantly and when she has lived near us she still didn't see the kids. At one point I wanted the break and felt maybe I could rekindle a relationship between her and "her" kids so I started setting up visitation and bringing them to her and picking them up after a few hours. She even started backing out of that, so I gave up.

She has gone months to a whole year without contacting the kids.

All I do, and all you can do, is to be there for them and try to show them what a mom should do. Everyone says when kids grow up they will know who was there for them and who was not. We can not make anyone be a parent.

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August 20th, 2012, 01:30 PM
Keakie's Avatar Learning to walk in faith
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I'm sorry. That would be super frustrating!

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August 20th, 2012, 03:42 PM
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That's so sad when the bp's don't bother to sacrifice for their kids. Our BM refuses to see DSD unless her DH is there. Her DH is the reason she lost residential custody. I mean really! You haven't seen the kid since she's moved and you can't even take one weekend out to see her. Instead she insist that she goes to her house, which by court order isn't allowed to happen, and tells the child that her step father forgives her. Umm lady you got it twisted, she needs to forgive him not the other way around.

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August 20th, 2012, 03:47 PM
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the whole thing drives me crazy!

I have no time for bp who decide when they want to see their kids...our youngest is neither of ours and his father hasnt seen him since LAST june!
My DD's dad lives in NYC..which from here is a long way LOL and he doesnt make all that much..but he still manages to come up here for a week every year! not like he's a saint..but he tries.

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August 20th, 2012, 06:59 PM
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((hugs)) That sounds so frustrating!
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August 21st, 2012, 11:31 AM
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oh how frustrating! I have no advice just hugs. I don't understand how a parent could just walk away from their child. That makes me so sad.

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