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February 12th, 2013, 10:57 AM
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I know the one year I was in summer school(missed too many days) we did nothing.. some worksheets and sat in there til time to leave.. this was highschool though, but I know when I was younger if a friend had to do it , it was basically the same thing.
If he's having to do summer school every summer then he's falling through the cracks during the regular school year and that is a BIG problem.

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February 12th, 2013, 02:33 PM
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I personally feel he's falling through the cracks AT HOME, not school, because the strides he's made since September are staggering (by December he'd exceeded 85% of his IEP goals for May, so they've redone it for Next May). The issue is if he doesn't have "homework" (which is usually just to read a book or write a sentence) then he doesn't have to do ANYTHING after school. I know he's a difficult child, but it's not too dang hard to make him read an extra book, or write a few sentences. School can only do so much, it's kind of up to the people he lives with to do the rest.

So by the time he comes to us, it's been 2 weeks since we've seen him for more than 2hrs at a time and I'm truly hesitant to make him do school work in the only 4 days a month he spends with his father... but 9/10 times I do make him do something. Be it tricking him into it by using lego's or his magnetic board, or even drawing on paper... an extra book, an educational show on tv (he's big on nature shows... and heck.. it's better than a cartoon or anything Disney puts out). I get him 2 days a week while DH is gone, I'm going to have to start cracking down on what he gets to do during those 2 days... Right now he just snuggles with his dad because "I not get enough time with you Dad, why can't I get more time?"(yup, that was yesterday's mini guilt trip)

Dh's upset about it... and it's sad because it's only February. He misses his kid and he already doesn't get the visitation he's entitled to... this just makes him get even less out of it.
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February 13th, 2013, 04:35 PM
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Every summer? What a crock of bs! There is no way to assess a child needing summer school every single summer. I'd definitely put my foot down and a parent and demand my time. That is completely unfair to Reme and Woody. Maybe a homeschooling plan can be set up for the summer. It's just not right that Reme never has a summer vacation.

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February 14th, 2013, 03:46 AM
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I think he's going to tell her to enroll him, and then if we change our mind, we change our mind. If we are here all summer (not thinking vacation, but possible jobs), then there's no reason he can't be schooled at home, especially since DH fully intends on taking advantage of his 50% visitation if we are here.

Dh thinks it's amusing. I get more upset over him not getting his visitation than he does sometimes. But let me tell you, nothing sucks more than to find your husband "cleaning" his son's room, sitting on the bed holding a stuffed animal. Or hearing him say "I miss him," 20 times a week.

After 4 miscarriages, 4 babies lost.. he should get the time he's due with the one who IS here.
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