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September 1st, 2013, 12:39 PM
mom2more's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Well it has been quiet for a while around here. Not much nonsense from bm or her parents. She was back with her ex and we didn't hear from her at all. Her parents pretty much quieted down as well.

She is now back at her parents. Guess the guy didn't change (big surprise right!). Now its back to nonsense!

BM has been in school and graduates in January. Right after Christmas Break ends. Grandparents now want the kids to come to bm's graduation. They want the kids to miss the whole week after break ends to come out by them and spend time with them and see the graduation.

Hubby told them no. Its too much school to miss, especially since one of my step kids is in high school. Also, they are in sports. My younger stepchild it doesn't matter as much to miss a week of practice, but for my older stepchild they will get kicked off the high school team if they miss for a week for a vacation.

So now we are the bad guys again. Hubby said they could go out for a weekend...go on thurs night and miss Friday...see graduation Saturday...and come home Sunday. They said its a lot of $ for such a short time. We totally get that, but we can't justify them missing a week of school and losing a spot on a high school sport team.


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September 1st, 2013, 03:52 PM
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Miss a whole week?! Oh hell no.

They can go out Thurs like you said and still see the graduation. That way they aren't missing that but aren't missing too much school.

I would stand firm with your decision!
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September 1st, 2013, 04:39 PM
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I too agree with you that a week is too much school to miss. Last year in the 10th grade, Sean had to miss 2 days for medical tests. It took him almost 2 weeks to catch up. He now will go to school no matter how bad he is hurting and go to school sick as long as he is not puking. He said it is not worth it.

When Dani got burned last year, I was able to keep her caught up, but she was in 4th grade. I can do most of the work she does (except the New Math) and Sean will help if I can't. With Sean, unless it is biology (which he took in 9th grade) I am useless.

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September 1st, 2013, 05:16 PM
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No way would I allow my kids to miss a whole week of school. Your compromise is completely reasonable and if they want to carry on, then that's their problem.

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September 1st, 2013, 06:46 PM
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yeah, missing a whole week in highschool would get them sooo behind. You guys aren't telling them completely no, you're trying to compromise, they're being unreasonable.

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September 3rd, 2013, 06:53 AM
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I think that is completely valid on your end! Especially missing so much school so quickly after winter break. A week is a lot. One or two days isn't such a big deal. And honestly, when you have long distance family and school to work around, sometimes you just have to make the best of short visits. It's how we have to work things with my extended family. Often, we'll leave Wednesday or Thursday and get there Thursday or Friday, and then drive back home on Sunday (it's a 12 hour drive). No, it's not as long as we'd like, but it's better than nothing.

Your option, of the kids flying out Thursday, they still have 2 FULL days there, and probably even part of the day on Sunday. No, it's not a full week, but it's better than nothing, at least in my eyes.
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